Today’s post is a follow-up to the post from July 30th. If you haven’t read it yet, you can read it here Modesty. I received comments both positive and negative comments on this post. But today’s follow-up is written in hopes that we reach out to those young ladies who have the wrong impression of modesty.
I challenge you, teen girls, to look for God’s direction in this area of clothing. Remember, it’s not just what you wear but how you wear it that matters. A girl can dress in a burlap sack but if she acts provocatively toward a boy, she has produced the same results as a girl who has exposed her body.
So with that said, I want to take this opportunity to share comments from a dear Christian brother, who has a teenage daughter of his own. His comments come from a boy/man’s perspective and I hope and pray that it will open your eyes to the need for modesty.
Modesty – Comments from a Man’s Perspective
by Dan McWhorter
As a man, I can attest to the truth of this devotional. Men are visual; they are stimulated by what they see. I can assure you that if a woman (or girl) dresses in a way that reveals her shape (or more), men will look at her and thoughts of lust will IMMEDIATELY begin. This is true for men of all ages, and it’s a battle that men must fight to keep their minds pure, especially in the day in which we live.
Ladies, if you’re dressing in a way to attract a certain guy or in hopes of just attracting a guy, may I humbly remind you of something? You’ll not only attract who you hope (or want) to attract, you’ll also attract all manner of men:
- You’ll attract nice guys, and you’ll attract bad guys.
- You’ll attract young men, and you’ll attract old men.
- You’ll attract athletes, and you’ll attract introverts.
- You’ll attract the brothers of girls your age, and you’ll attract the fathers of girls your age.
- You’ll attract those who may seem nice, cute, and have a great personality. But in reality, it’s a facade, because they only want one thing.
Also be aware, you’ll attract drug addicts, drug dealers, felons, rapists, thieves, murderers, perverts, and pedophiles.
Yes, you will attract guys by how you dress, but you will attract much more than you intended. Many of those whom you attract will take the way that you dress as a cue to pursue you. Yes, you’ll attract guys, but you’ll attract those you don’t want to attract also. When they see you dressed in a way that shows your shape (or more), you would be sickened to know what is going through their mind and hearts, including the bad guys, old men, introverts, fathers, drug addicts, drug dealers, felons, rapists, thieves, murderers, perverts, and pedophiles.
Sadly, as a man, I know what goes through the mind of men when they see women dress in a way that shows too much. I shudder to think what would go through the minds of men if they saw my wife and daughter dressed that way. I can’t even begin to imagine what I would do if I could hear the thoughts of their hearts while lusting after my wife and daughter.
Let me end by saying this, if you are dressing a certain way because it’s what you want, or if it’s so that you’ll be attractive to guys, you’re doing it for the wrong reason. From my heart, let me remind you that you belong to God if you’re a Christian, and everything you do should be done for his glory, not yours or for anyone else.
Isaiah 43:7 Even every one that is called by my name: for I have created him for my glory, I have formed him; yea, I have made him.
1 Corinthians 10:31 Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.
Does how you dress bring glory to God or does it bring glory to you? Does how you dress aid in stirring lust in the hearts of men? From the bottom of my heart, I humbly ask you to honestly consider those questions.