~Psalm 139:14-16 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully [and] wonderfully made: marvellous [are] thy works; and [that] my soul knoweth right well. 15 My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, [and] curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. 16 Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all [my members] were written, [which] in continuance were fashioned, when [as yet there was] none of them.
There’s not one young woman (or adult woman) that I have met who is satisfied with the way she looks. Even the most fit women are not content with their bodies – they always have another pound to shed or more muscle to build up. Today’s culture states that women must be slim and built like a body builder but that is the world’s thoughts, not God’s plan for our lives.
God made each of us unique. Wouldn’t life be boring if the fields were filled with all red roses? As beautiful as a red rose is, and as wonderful as it smells, we would not like them nearly as much if that is all we saw.
Teenaged girls and young ladies’ bodies are dealing with many changes within. Female hormones cause changes in the body and this may take a few years to level off. Some of those changes include weight gain and the transitioning womanly features (breasts, slender waistline, bigger hips, periods, pimples, etc.). Some are wonderful changes while others are not so wonderful. The world seems to have all the answers but they are not always the right answers for today’s Christian teen girl!
For example, some girls struggle with weight gain which in turn produces low self esteem. So let’s look at this for a bit. Is there a reason for being over weight other than hormones? If you want to get a “handle” on this, you must be honest with yourself. Are you overweight because you eat too much? Do you snack a lot? Do you drink a lot of sodas? If you do, then only you can control what is put into your mouth. If pizza is all that is being served, then have only one slice and eat a salad with it. If there are only fattening snacks in the house, ask your parents to buy you fruit and healthy snacks. Remember, your brain tells your hand to put things into your mouth. Train your brain
But to the teen girl who is eating right but is overweight because of genetics (your parents are heavy, your grandparents are heavy, etc.), it can be discouraging. However, it doesn’t need to be this way. Remember that God made you unique. He has a purpose for your life, just as He does for the popular shapely Christian girl in your Sunday School class. So try disguising your shape with appropriate clothing. Today’s trend is to wear tight clothing, whether or not you have a weight problem. But that is the best way to dress if you want to get hurtful comments from those mean kids at school. Stay away from clothing that outlines the woman’s figure. Flowing tops and dresses that cover those difficult areas are best. Stay away from belts which accentuate the waistline. Wear loose fitting clothing in colors that you like and make you happy. What you think about your clothing will determine how you feel about yourself when you wear them.
Finally, activity is the key to taking weight off and keeping it off. You can be eating all the right foods but if you aren’t active, it won’t help. Before the technology revolution, teenagers spent time outside playing sports, walking to their friend’s house, walking to their favorite hangout. However, today is quite different. Most teenagers have their own cars and drive everywhere. Most spend their time on the computer or cell phones. The physical activity levels have dropped immensely in our society. So look at your lifestyle and make some changes if you need to. Activity will make you feel better (physically and emotionally) about yourself. Notice I spoke of activity, not exercise. Exercise, in moderation, is a good thing. Too many teen girls are obsessed with exercise and how their bodies look. However, the girl’s mind is focused on the wrong things. Paul encouraged us to take part in godly exercise: reading your Bible, putting into practice what you read, allowing the Holy Spirit to work in your life to change you from the “inside.”
~1 Timothy 4:8 For bodily exercise profiteth little: but godliness is profitable unto all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come.
Lastly, ask your father and/or your mother what they think? If you share your feelings about your weight with them, they will help you achieve your goals. All parents want their children to succeed. You are not alone in this dilemma. So many teen girls are unhappy with their bodies and all they need is help to eat the right things, buy the right clothes, etc.