Have you ever thought about running away from home? When I was 15, I gave it serious thought. I wasn’t abused by my parents – I just didn’t get along with my mother. I thought she didn’t know anything! :( I wasn’t saved so I had a lot of “junk” stored in that brain of mine. :-? When my mother saw what I was about to do, she offered to help me pack my suitcase :cry: I didn’t run away but looking back on that situation, I’m glad that my mother chose to respond to me in that way. I’m glad because I could have faced a totally different life had I succeeded in doing so. I may not be saved today. I may have lived a very different life or I may have died.
Running away from home may seem like the right thing to do at the time but it only serves to create more problems than a teenager ever imagined. You may think that running away is the solution to your problem. Or you may have a friend who has talked you into running away with them. Which ever it is, you have no idea of the dangers that you will face. 8-O
For you, teen girl, there are especially more dangers awaiting in the streets. You will be like a sheep waiting to be caught by wolves. There are so many guys out there that would love nothing more than to give you food and a place to stay but you would have to “pay them back” in some way. Teenagers seem to think they are invincible but that is just not the case. The FBI has countless files of runaways, and many of whom are tracked down and are either dead, drug addicts and/or prostitutes. I know that you are thinking that this would never happen to you but it’s not a matter of “if,” but a matter of “when” it will happen. It’s not a glorious lifestyle at all.
If you’re still thinking of running away, then you must think ahead more than just a day or two. How will you earn money to feed and clothe yourself … what about housing? If you are one of those “lucky” girls who finds a job, how will you get to work if you don’t have a car? If you are under age, how will you even find a job? These things just don’t magically appear. Up until now, your parents have given you a roof over your heads, food on your plate, a warm bed to sleep in and they’ve paid for the clothes on your body. But now you will be on your own and will have to provide for these things. It’s important that you think of these things before you make the biggest mistake of your life.
I say this because I had a teenager who wanted to run away. I praise the Lord that he didn’t and am thankful that we, as parents, were able to work the problem out with our teenager. I can’t imagine the sleepless nights we would have had knowing our teenager was on the streets all alone. :cry: The guilt we would have felt would have been endless. The tears would have been ever flowing. The teenager has no idea what a selfish act it is to run away. She is only concerned about getting her way and making her point. However, the heartache that is left behind is greater than the parents can bear. The worry that is experienced by these grieving parents is just as bad as a death except they know their child is still alive and they have no idea how that child is doing. ♥
There was a son in the Bible that left home and his father had no idea what was going on in his life. Read about him:
~Luke 15:11-32 And he said, A certain man had two sons: 12 And the younger of them said to [his] father, Father, give me the portion of goods that falleth [to me]. And he divided unto them [his] living. 13 And not many days after the younger son gathered all together, and took his journey into a far country, and there wasted his substance with riotous living. 14 And when he had spent all, there arose a mighty famine in that land; and he began to be in want. 15 And he went and joined himself to a citizen of that country; and he sent him into his fields to feed swine. 16 And he would fain have filled his belly with the husks that the swine did eat: and no man gave unto him. 17 And when he came to himself, he said, How many hired servants of my father’s have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger! 18 I will arise and go to my father, and will say unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and before thee, 19 And am no more worthy to be called thy son: make me as one of thy hired servants. 20 And he arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him. 21 And the son said unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and in thy sight, and am no more worthy to be called thy son. 22 But the father said to his servants, Bring forth the best robe, and put [it] on him; and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on [his] feet: 23 And bring hither the fatted calf, and kill [it]; and let us eat, and be merry: 24 For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found. And they began to be merry. 25 Now his elder son was in the field: and as he came and drew nigh to the house, he heard musick and dancing. 26 And he called one of the servants, and asked what these things meant. 27 And he said unto him, Thy brother is come; and thy father hath killed the fatted calf, because he hath received him safe and sound. 28 And he was angry, and would not go in: therefore came his father out, and intreated him. 29 And he answering said to [his] father, Lo, these many years do I serve thee, neither transgressed I at any time thy commandment: and yet thou never gavest me a kid, that I might make merry with my friends: 30 But as soon as this thy son was come, which hath devoured thy living with harlots, thou hast killed for him the fatted calf. 31 And he said unto him, Son, thou art ever with me, and all that I have is thine. 32 It was meet that we should make merry, and be glad: for this thy brother was dead, and is alive again; and was lost, and is found.
This son started out with money but the future was not his concern. He wasted the money he had and then he was left with nothing. He didn’t stop to think of what he would do when the money ran out. Look at what happened to him! He ended up taking care of pigs and eating what the pigs were eating! Yuck! That’s how desperate he was! But he came to his senses – he realized that things were much better at home (more so than he thought before he left) so he began to have a repenting heart. He decided he would ask his father’s forgiveness. The son was so humbled by his experiences that he would see if his father would hire him to work on his farm rather than take him back as a son! Of course, we know the wonderful ending and how his father took him back with opened arms :)
Nothing can be so bad that you should run away from home, teen girl. Unless you are being physically abused, you should pray about each situation. Once you are no longer angry, talk to your parents. Your thoughts are very different from what is actually in your parents’ heads. I know that I use to think that my mother didn’t care a thing about me but that was the furthest thing from the truth. I only thought that because I was selfish and only wanted my way. She could have said the sky was blue but I would have argued with her only because I didn’t want to be on “her side”! Oh how selfish I was – I was unloving, even though I thought it was my mother who was unloving :cry:
If you are being physically abused at home, talk to a Pastor of a nearby church. He is trained to help in these types of issues and can guide you as to what to do.
If you’re not being abused teen girl, no matter how much your heart is telling you to run away, don’t do it! If you are truly born again and love the Lord, you will think on this, pray about it and talk to your parents about what is going on in your heart.
The Lord wants to lead you to do what is right – all you have to do is ask Him!
~Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.