Impressions


~Philippians 2:3-4 [Let] nothing [be done] through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. 4 Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.

Trying to impress others is not something new. Through the ages, people have tried to impress others with their money, their jobs, good looks, nice clothing, or even their intelligence. But why? Do you think it’s just so that they can feel better about themselves? That’s what I think. When I was in high school, I so wanted to be a cheerleader but the “popular” girls always made fun of me because I was so skinny. I had absolutely no chance of making the cheerleading squad. I tried to dress the way they did – I tried to talk the way they did – but nothing I did made them like me any more or less than they already did. I wasn’t saved so I didn’t have the Lord to lean or even a Bible to read.

Now that I am older, I look back to those days and I know now why I wanted so badly to be accepted by those girls. I  figured out that the root (the bottom line) of this desire was pride. Teenagers want to be accepted by the “popular” kids in school.  Do you think they want to be accepted because it makes them feel good about themselves? I think that’s part of the reason. Everyone wants others to think good of them. No one likes being hated or disliked. But being disliked is a fact of life. There’s no way that you can make everyone like you 100% of the time. That’s impossible. There will always be someone out there who will hate the fact that you are a Christian or for some other reason.

Wanting other’s positive reaction toward us because it makes us feel good is the sin of pride and is not something that God likes according to the Scriptures. I’m not talking about taking pride in one’s chores here. I’m talking about the sin of pride that causes us to think that we are more or better than we really are. When you stop to think about it, we should be concerned with what God thinks about us. In God’s eyes, we are all sinners. As born-again children of God, we are all the same in His eyes.

1 Samuel 16:7  But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for [the LORD seeth] not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.

God sees the heart and there is not one person who is better than the other.

~Romans 3:23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;

There were people who had this problem in Jesus’ day as well.  As I told you before, this is not a “new thing.” The Pharisees in Jesus’ day did things in public so that people would take notice of them and see how “holy” they were. But holy was the last thing they were.

~Matthew 23:5 But all their works they do for to be seen of men: they make broad their phylacteries, and enlarge the borders of their garments,

The Pharisees did things so that the people who saw them would think they were holy. That is a good picture of the sin of pride. It was also lies, wasn’t it? They were trying to be better than they really were!

So teenager, are you trying to impress the kids in your school? Why? So you can feel good about yourself? So you can say that everyone likes you? So you can feel accepted? Although that is a common problem in everyone’s life, the Bible teaches us that we should desire what the Lord thinks about us and not the world.

~John 15:19 If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.

Being a born-again child of God means that you are not to be part of this world. You can’t be a Christian only on Sundays and Wednesday nights. If you are truly a child of God, you will have a desire to be like Him and to do the things which please Him. God doesn’t want us living “like” the world – He wants us to be different. We shouldn’t be cussing, dressing to attract attention to our bodies, talking like the world, etc. The Lord wants us to be different so that people will want what we have: salvation and a relationship with Him!

So what do you do when you want everyone to like you? Tell God about it – pour your feelings out to Him. Then trust Him. He will help you through these times like these. Read the three verses below and memorize them. These three verses helped me so much when I first got saved as a young adult. When people at work were cruel to me, I told the Lord about it and how much it hurt my feelings. I didn’t understand why God was allowing me to go through these hard times but I knew that He would never do anything to hurt me. God doesn’t want me to think highly of myself but to trust Him and think highly of HIM 🙂

Proverbs 3:5-7 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. 7 Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.

Guard Your Heart


Teenagers, you are in an awkward place in life: you are no longer children but you’re not quite adults yet. The brain doesn’t stop developing until you reach 25 years of age. Your body has almost reached full maturity but the brain is lagging behind. This is really an important fact to take note, actually! 😯

But just because your brain hasn’t fully matured yet, doesn’t mean that you can’t be “working” on maturing your heart. The Bible says:

~Proverbs 4:23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it [are] the issues of life.

Keeping your heart and protecting it is something that you can do right now, teen girl! You don’t have to wait 🙂 Keeping and guarding your heart means to expose it to Godly things rather than worldly things. The person who guards her heart from ungodly things will have peace in her life. This is a promise that I can make to you because I am living proof of it. Guarding the heart does not have an age limit – it’s not only for your mother and father, or for your Pastor. It is for you, just as much as it is for me! 🙂

How can you learn to guard your heart? Reading God’s Word is the answer to all of life’s issues and problems. 🙂 The Bible is not an “old person’s” book nor is it outdated. Everything found in its pages are like new every day and apply to every situation of life. That is why it is referred to as “ever breathing and ever living”! 🙂 Jeremiah said:

~Jeremiah 6:16 Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where [is] the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls. But they said, We will not walk [therein].

Walking in the old paths simply means that no matter how old a teaching from the Scriptures is, it is God’s Word and God never changes. What He said to Jeremiah can apply to you as well!

~Malachi 3:6a For I [am] the LORD, I change not;

When you keep your heart, teenager, you are filling it with the Scriptures – they have all the answers to most questions we have in life. If you’re afraid, read Psalms. If you want to be instructed in every-day life, read Proverbs. Are you worried what people (girls at school, etc.) think of you? The Scriptures have encouraging words for that as well.

I read a really cool article today that had a quote that really stuck with me:

Have you ever worn yourself out worrying about something? Worry is the gas in fear’s tank. If you are worried, you are afraid of something. The wrong kind of fear can be so draining. ~Francie Taylor

Being afraid and worrying are not just teenager problems – they are adult problems as well. No one is exempt from these fears. You will have fears for the rest of your life but the important thing is the way you deal with these fears.  That is what separates you from the unsaved world, teenager. God wants you to have peace. The same peace that He provided Jeremiah (in Jeremiah 6:16), He will provide to you. You can only get this peace if you spend time in your Bible and apply what God is trying to teach you to your life. Bible reading is not just something your parents encourage you to do … it is the very food you need to keep your heart as Solomon wrote in Proverbs 4:23. Just as you eat food three times a day to keep you strong, you need your time in the Bible to keep your heart strong 🙂

The same God who told David that He was his hiding place is there for you! He can be your hiding place, teenager! 🙂 How? Notice that David said “I hope in Thy word.” Isn’t that wonderful? You, too, can have this hope because you have the entire Bible at your fingertips … right there to help you! What is meant by “hope”? I believe that when we read our Bibles, we have a hope of receiving a message from God designed just for us! We have a hope that He is right there at our side as we go through the hard times and guides us to His Word for encouragement. God does not leave us alone in life. He loves us (Jeremiah 31:3) – He knows us by name (Exodus 33:12) – He knows the number of the hairs on each one of our heads (Luke 12:7)! How personal is THAT! 🙂

Keeping your heart centered on God’s Word will produce Godly outcomes in your life. Less time in God’s Word will bring drama that you won’t know how to handle and result in pain and tears. More time in God’s Word will give you what you need (right at your finger tips) when you need it for every issue in life!

~Proverbs 4:23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it [are] the issues of life.

Femininity


~Titus 2:1 But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine:

~Titus 2:3-5 The aged women likewise, that [they be] in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 6 [To be] discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

The art of being feminine is dying in today’s world. Girls are looking more like guys, and vice versa. The sad thing is that it is a wondering thing to be a girl! God made us different and I’m glad that He did 🙂

I don’t want to look like my husband 😉 God made us to have breasts so we could feed our babies! Not only is it healthy for the baby but it is free food!  LOL 🙂 God made us with wider hips so we could carry the baby during pregnancy as well as deliver that baby into this world. Our brains work differently as well. We are able to handle multiple tasks at once, while guys can handle only a couple. This helps us when we are taking care of dinner, helping the children with homework and answering the phone all at once. This would be a hard task for a man but we gals take it right in stride 🙂

No too many men want to marry a girl that has as much muscle as he does. 🙂 Nor does a girl want to marry a guy who is as feminine as she is. So what does God want from us gals? He designed us – He fashioned us – He created our moods, our thought process, our physical qualities, after all. So what can we learn from the Scriptures so we can be the best women possible?

Learning to be a woman, a lady, and a feminine one at that, is a process that starts when we are young. If you’ve never been taught, this will be a great place to start 🙂

The following verses (3-5) teach us how to be a woman of God and how it is sound biblical doctrine.  Women are to be:

  • Sober – that means her entire “being” – both mentally and physically – she needs to be level headed.
  • Love her husband and her children – not just in words but in deeds and actions.
  • Discreet – not being a gossip or jealous of other women (catty).
  • Chaste – this involves our past couple of lessons on modesty – how she dresses, how she speaks and handles herself.
  • Keepers at home – not one who insists on working outside the home but one who is willing to accept that she is needed at home to care for her husband, children and home.
  • Good – doing good no matter what the cost – not being lazy when things need to be done.
  • Obedient to their own husbands (not someone else’s husband, or pastor) – This is a silly example but you will understand the general meaning: If the husband wants to buy a blue Chevrolet and the wife wants a red Mustang. She should be happy with her husband’s decision and not sulk or pout.

Teen girl, you need to start learning to be a woman at a young age. Everything we are taught as young girls lays a foundation for our role as a wife and mother. If you have difficulty obeying your parents, you will have even more difficulty being a submissive wife and obedient to your husband. This doesn’t mean that you are less of a person because you will have to submit to a husband. It means you have a different role than that of a man. God created a man to work, provide a home and to support a family – every family needs a “head” just as every organization needs a “head” (president). God created a woman to take care of that family and home. Both roles are very much needed and neither can make for a complete family without the other.

If you are having a hard time with obeying your parents, you need to pray and ask the Lord to help you. Even though your parents do not “deserve” your respect (that’s your opinion), it is still the right thing to do according to God’s Word. Do you deserve God’s blessings in your life all the time? Not always, if you’re honest, right? Each day we are suppose to grow as a Christian. God wants us to be more like Him. What you learn now will help you when you meet the man that God wants you to marry.

So practice the traits of the Godly woman listed above while you’re still young. It takes practice but practice makes perfect 🙂 If you are blessed to have a Godly mother, watch her and ask her questions. Learn from her as she tries to teach you. You’ll be your happiest when you are listening God and listening to His Word. When you learn these things according to His Word, you do not blaspheme His Word (see verse 6 above). It stands to reason that if you do not learn these things and live by them, you will blaspheme His Word 😦

Start learning how to be a biblical feminine teenager today!

Honoring Authority


~Ephesians 6:1-2 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. 2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)

Respect is a hard thing to come by these days. People have such a hard time accepting the fact that there are people who have authority over them. But the Scriptures are clear that respecting authority is commanded by God for ALL of us! Some of you are more disrespectful than others. But the challenge for all of us is the same—we need to respect those in authority over us.

Honoring authority starts in your home – it prepares children for what is coming in their future. This teaching starts with babies/toddlers with the teaching of obedience. As the toddler grows into an adolescent, she is then able to understand the meaning of honoring authority. But a child who is not taught to obey and who isn’t disciplined will find it extremely difficult to honor authority. In fact, a lack of this teaching will produce teenagers who rebel against all authority, starting first with their parents.
Teenager, you may be one of those whose parents have not taught you to obey them. If you have just recently been saved, you really need to let God’s Word speak to your heart. Read your Bible and learn about your role as a child. If you have been saved for a few years but have not been taught, I pray that you will allow me the opportunity to help you in this area.

Kids are not the only ones who need to honor authority. Adults need to also. We are commanded in the Bible:

~Luke 20:25 And he said unto them, Render therefore unto Caesar the things which be Caesar’s, and unto God the things which be God’s.

~Luke 22:42 Saying, Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will, but thine, be done.

~1 Timothy 2:1-3 I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, [and] giving of thanks, be made for all men; 2 For kings, and [for] all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty. 3 For this [is] good and acceptable in the sight of God our Saviour;

Jesus was teaching to give the taxes to Caesar but it didn’t stop there. Jesus was all about submitting to authority. He submitted to His Father and recognized that the Father had authority over Him. God set up authority from the very beginning. So everyone is under some kind of authority. Obeying, honoring and respecting authority is something that must be learned – it just doesn’t automatically happen.

The opposite of honoring authority is to go against them – speak evil of them to others – do the opposite of what they ask of you. May of us learn by example. If parents cheat on their taxes, speak negatively about their Pastor, or drive over the speed limit, they are teaching their children that they do not honor authority. Their children are not blind and will see the hypocrisy in it all. If this is the case in your home, teenager, it does not give you an excuse to do the same. To the true born-again Christian, we must live to a higher standard and our standard is the Lord Jesus Christ. Notice today’s Bible verse from Ephesians 6:1-2. Does it say to only obey your parents when they are good parents? No, it sure doesn’t. You may feel that your parents are not good parents but that doesn’t matter. The Bible still tells you to honor them (in verse 2).

Why is it so hard to honor parents? It is our “sinful nature” that causes us to disobey. Disobedience is compared to rebellion according to the Scriptures. God thinks so strongly against this that He says that it is as bad witchcraft and idolatry. If you are disobeying your parents, the Bible says that you are rejecting God’s Word.

~1 Samuel 15:23a For rebellion [is as] the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness [is as] iniquity and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD,

If you have been guilty of this sin, teenager, confess it before God. Go to your parents and ask their forgiveness for not giving them the honor they deserve according to God’s Word. If your parents aren’t saved, this will definitely be a testimony to them. Then continue to honor them, whether you agree with what they say or not. Of course I am not suggesting that you obey your parents if they tell you to do something contrary to what the Bible teaches! If they ask you to steal, you must say no. But what I am saying is to honor their “office” of authority over you. If they tell you to get off the phone and do your homework, then you should honor them by obeying. 🙂

What are some things which are disrespectful?

  • Not doing as you are told – if your chore is to take out the trash, take it out. Not doing so is not honoring authority. Honoring their authority would be to take out the trash WITHOUT being told 🙂
  • Talking back – yes, you may feel that you have something to say, but keep it to yourself. God may give you an opportunity to say something at a later time when things are calmer. Listen to what they say and think about it even though you didn’t like what they said. 🙂
  • Standing up for those in authority when something bad is said about them – if your friends say mean things about your parents, stick up for them. You wouldn’t want your friends using the Lord’s name in vain, would you? They are slandering your parents by speaking badly of them. Take a stand for what is right!
  • Body language – rolling your eyes, sighing when a comment is made that you don’t like, turning around and showing your back to someone is talking to you – all these show that you do not respect authority. It’s also rude to do these things. It’s more mature to face those in authority and listen quietly, and with a meek spirit.

Jesus is the perfect example of meekness – He obeyed His Heavenly Father – He taught His disciples to be a servant to each other by being a servant to them.

~Matthew 11:29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.

Therefore, your meekness toward your parents will bring peace in your life. Your relationship with them will set the foundation for your life as an adult. They don’t set rules just for the sake of setting rules or dominating over you. Your parents’ job is to mold their children to become spiritually mature Christian adults. It is their duty before God just as much as it is your duty to obey them.

Some of you need to repent of your disrespectfulness, first and foremost. Only then will you be able to grow in this area. If you don’t repent, you are going to be facing some very difficult times as an adult. You may be anxious to get out of the house from under your parents’ rule but your problem won’t stop there. We all have those in authority over us – we all have to honor our bosses; we all have to honor police officers; we all have to honor our Country’s leaders. This is not just a child’s lesson – it is a Christian lesson. 🙂

~Isaiah 50:5 The Lord God hath opened mine ear, and I was not rebellious, neither turned away back.

Modesty – Part 2


Today we are going to cover modesty in word and action. But before we do, I wanted to share a few quotes on modest clothing taken from a book by Lisa Bevere. She is a Christian author who wrote, Kissed The Girls and Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In.

Men are not inspired to protect women who are naked, but instead to conquer and violate them; they want to protect those who are clothed.

Men like to flirt with, and sometimes even date a wild child, but those women aren’t usually first on their lists for marriage or motherhood.

Wearing a low-cut, cleavage-revealing top is called suggestive. What does it suggest? That there is more than what you now see, and I may let you look closer since I’m already willing to give you this much of a peek.

Your enemy wants to strip you, make sport of you, and merchandise your body, but your heavenly Father wants to clothe you with beauty, strength, dignity and honor that will endure.

God looks at the heart, and we shouldn’t judge by appearance . . . but we still live on the earth, and everyone here looks at the exterior, because only God sees the interior.

Modesty doesn’t stop with how you dress, teenager. It’s like the example of dressing up a pig that I gave you in the previous devotional. Modesty is a “heart” issue. Once you are right with God, you will desire the things of God. You desire to be more like Christ – if not, you should!

The human brain does not fully develop until a person reaches the age of 25. A teenager may look like an adult but will not act like an adult because the brain has not fully matured. Maturing physically is one thing but maturing spiritually and emotionally is even better because that will last a life time.

A Christian girl’s behavior should set her apart from the unsaved girls. She should be different. Modest  behavior is something that is learned. Unsaved teen girls curse, talk about sex openly, tell dirty jokes, etc. The saved teen girl will have an “inner voice” telling her that this behavior is not Christ like.

Modest behavior is how a girl carries herself – how she walks, how she sits, how she talks. For example, sitting in a chair with your legs spread apart is not the way a lady should sit because it attracts the eye to the area between her legs. Since men think of sex so often, just seeing a girl’s legs or the suggestiveness of her legs being spread apart encourages these thoughts. So always keep your legs together when you sit down. It is easier to do this when you cross your feet at the ankle and the legs slightly bent to one side.

Wearing pants can cause women to be less modest in the way they sit, the same thing actually applies. It doesn’t matter that your legs are covered – the way you sit attracts just as much attention as not being clothed properly. It’s important to wear skirts and dresses that don’t “ride up” when you sit down as well. I sat across a teen girl who had a skirt that rode up above her knees once she sat down. She sat with her legs spread apart and everyone was getting quite the “view”!

Modest behavior doesn’t stop with how we sit, however. Modest behavior covers how we handle ourselves in public. For example, when the girls in your “group” begin gossiping about another girl, what do you do? If they start to tell dirty jokes, what do you do? Modest behavior is centered on God’s Word. It involves training the brain to think right and, therefore, to do right!

What are some examples of modest behavior? Modesty also involves “manners.”

  • Speaking in a quiet voice; Proverbs 11:12 He that is void of wisdom despiseth his neighbour: but a man of understanding holdeth his peace.
  • Taking other peoples’ feelings into consideration before acting; Philippians 2:3 [Let] nothing [be done] through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.
  • Being kind; Ephesians 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
  • Thinking before acting; James 1:19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
  • Not staring at people; Isaiah 2:11 The lofty looks of man shall be humbled, and the haughtiness of men shall be bowed down, and the LORD alone shall be exalted in that day.
  • Not taking cuts in line; Philippians 2:4 Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.
  • Asking the Lord to bless your enemies, as well as your friends and yourself; Romans 12:14 Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not.
  • Not boasting or bragging about something you’ve done; Proverbs 25:14 Whoso boasteth himself of a false gift [is like] clouds and wind without rain.
  • Not speaking badly over others; Proverbs 21:23 Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.
  • Humble in spirit and manner, meek and not drawing attention to oneself; Ephesians 4:1-3 I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called, 2 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; 3 Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
  • Not a gossip; Proverbs 11:13 A talebearer revealeth secrets: but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth the matter.

A modest girl/woman displays an attractive shyness about her; she is in control of herself and has proper behavior; she respects others; and she respects herself.

Daily Bible reading will help you with your behavior and speech. This is the best solution for the teen girl who desires to be a virtuous teenager. There are 31 Proverbs altogether in the Book of Proverbs, which is perfect because there’s one for each day of the month. 🙂 Solomon, the wisest man in the world (even today), asked God for wisdom and God gave it to him. We all reap the benefit of Solomon’s wisdom in this great Book! It’s a wonderful place to start your adventure into become a Godly woman!

Modesty


~1 Timothy 2:9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;

Today’s devotional is going to be all about “straight talk”! If you teen girls are old enough to dress immodestly, then you are old enough for me to be perfectly honest with you 🙂

It amazes me how many young ladies do not know the meaning of modesty. Their parents have not taught them and their friends do not practice it. I found it interesting that there is only one verse in all of the Bible that uses the word “modest/modesty” and that’s the verse above. If it is only mentioned once, we should take notice of it! 🙂

Modesty boils down to how well you know God’s Word. Why? Because modesty is a “hot topic” for women. They want a specific Bible verse that says, “Thou shalt not wear a top that shows your breasts.” There IS no such verse so that means we must study the matter out for ourselves to see what God says about it.

Girls get upset and downright angry when the topic of modesty comes up. 😡 Modesty can involve several things: the way we dress, the way we act and the way we talk.

Let’s start with the way girls/women ought to dress. Today’s teen girl likes the latest fashions – it’s important for her to dress the same way her friends dress because then she feels “accepted.” This is not a new thing – it was that way when I was a teenager. There’s nothing wrong with fashion as long as we keep that fashion in line with God’s Word.

If you’ve chosen your friends wisely (as we covered in Choosing Friends Wisely), this won’t be as difficult as the teen girl whose friends are not saved. If you have a rebellious heart, teenager, you will hate everything I write about in this devotional. I pray that you will desire to submit your heart to God and ask Him to lead you in this area of how to dress.

Let’s start off with some “straight talk” about boys. Once boys go through puberty, their male hormones kick in and their way of thinking drastically changes. Teenage boys have one thing on their minds and that is sex. Psychology Today had an article a few years ago that stated that men think of sex several times a day and teenage boys every seven seconds! Their bodies are maturing just like yours but in a different way. God created man to love his wife and to love to look at his wife. God also created woman to love her husband but she is not into “looks” as much as she is into “words.” She loves to hear the words “I love you” or “you look nice,” for example.

Since guys are so “visual,” they have a desire to look at girls. The Bible is filled with passages about fornication (sex before marriage) and adultery (sex with someone other than your spouse). Many of these verses deal with men looking upon a woman. The story of David and Bathsheba is a good example of this. David’s desire to commit adultery with Bathsheba came when he saw her taking a bath on the roof top (which was a custom in those days). Had he protected his eyes and turned away at the first sighting of her, he would not have sinned.

~2 Samuel 11:2 And it came to pass in an eveningtide, that David arose from off his bed, and walked upon the roof of the king’s house: and from the roof he saw a woman washing herself; and the woman [was] very beautiful to look upon.

Back to our straight talk – girls don’t think about sex as much as the guys. We do like to see a guy dressed in nice clothing, of course. But we women usually like talking to guys and we absolutely love it when they say nice things to us. We can’t possibly understand the problem that guys have because we are not made that way. That’s why many girls/women think that exposing their breasts in a low-cut top is no big deal. Ahh, but it IS a big deal to the guys!

Guys are bombarded with pictures of practically naked women on television, music, Internet, magazines, billboards, etc. That’s why porn addiction is primarily made up of men. For the saved teenage guy, this is a battle that he fights every single day! If you don’t believe me, ask your Dad to be honest with you in this area. If your Dad was privileged to be a saved teenager, he will be able to share with you how he dealt with protecting his eyes through God’s Word. As well, if your Dad was saved later on in life, he will be able to tell you how difficult it was for him to control his eyes and his heart and to keep them pure. Ask him what the first thing a guy usually looks at when he looks at a girl. I asked my husband this very question and he said that most men look at a girl’s breasts, then her derriere (buttocks/tush) and crotch area, then her legs. Don’t get angry with me for saying this, teenager! This is what my husband said. Last I checked, he was a man 😉

Dressing modestly means taking special care in covering up these three areas that guys tend to look at. Here’s where rebellion comes into the picture. Many teenagers (and grown women for that matter) will put the blame on the guys. They say, “It’s their responsibility not to look at me – they should look elsewhere. It’s not my fault that they are looking at my chest.” Now comes more straight talk: This is a cop out, plain and simple.  The Bible says:

~Romans 14:21 [It is] good neither to eat flesh, nor to drink wine, nor [any thing] whereby thy brother stumbleth, or is offended, OR IS MADE WEAK. (the underlining and capitalizing is my own emphasis)

If a guy is weak in this area, YOU are making it easy for your “brother” to sin by exposing your chest to him. Jesus said:

~Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

You, teenager, have caused a boy/man to commit adultery in his heart! This is sin and is very serious! You are as guilty of this sin then if you actually had sex with this boy/man! The Bible also says that we are to esteem the other person MORE than ourselves.

~Philippians 2:3 [Let] nothing [be done] through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.

That means putting the needs of someone else BEFORE your own needs! That doesn’t sound like God wants you to wear what you want even though it causes someone else to sin, does it?

If you cannot see this, then YOU have a heart problem, plain and simple! What Christian would truly want to cause someone to sin? When we are thinking of other people and wanting to help them, we won’t be quick to cause them to sin. Wearing tops that show off your breasts is not just a worldly fashion statement – it is an unspoken statement to saved men. It tells them several things: (1) you don’t listen to the Holy Spirit (2) you don’t respect yourself and, (3) you don’t care who you hurt. This is an extremely selfish attitude to have. Pride is the sin here. Are you angry with me yet? I’m praying that you desire to do what is right according to God’s Word, young lady! What saved man would want a woman with these characteristics?

Clothing can cover up your breasts but they can still be considered immodest if they are tight fitting. For example, if your top hugs your body and outlines your breasts and body, it will still attract guys’ eyes to those areas. The bottom line is to ask yourself WHY do you want to attract attention in this way? Why do you want to dress in a way that causes people to look at your breasts? I’ll tell you why – more straight talk. It is because your heart is not “right” in this area – you are not listening to God.

God is all about modesty – when Adam and Eve sinned, God clothed them in coats made of animal skins:

~Genesis 3:21 Unto Adam also and to his wife did the LORD God make coats of skins, and clothed them.

He didn’t make fig leaves to cover just their “private” parts but coats to cover their entire bodies. It has only been since the 1900’s that women have begun to expose their breasts. Hollywood movies started the trend and it continues today. Sadly, each year seems to produce clothing that covers less and less body! Today, we see way more girls and women showing their breasts than we do women who cover up. Even Christian girls are dressing the same way the unsaved girls are dressing. This means that they are not spending enough time with the Lord in reading and studying their Bibles. If they were, the Holy Spirit would be speaking to their hearts and burdening them to cover up.

Form fitting tank tops and tight-fitting skirts are the fashion! I feel badly for the poor boys/men who want to protect their eyes from sin! A born-again Christian teenager should desire to obey God’s Word just as much as a grown saved woman. Causing a boy/man to sin is a very serious matter. Therefore, if you totally hate what I have said here, you should check your heart. If you have never heard straight talk like this but you feel the conviction of the Holy Spirit, then start to cover up your body.

Boys and men look at a girl’s “derriere (behind/tush) and front/crotch” as well as their legs. I’m not going to cover whether you should wear pants or dresses/skirts here. But I will say that if your clothing is so tight that a boy can see the outline of your “tush and crotch” then this is definitely not modest in the least. WHY would you want a guy looking at this area of your body? Better yet, WHY would you WANT a guy who is only interested in that? If you don’t care, then you have now become guilty of causing him to commit adultery in his heart – and you are just as guilty.

I am not telling you to dress up like an Amish woman here, covered from head to toe. There are some very beautiful fashions out there that you can wear that cover these parts of your body. More importantly, there are fashions that you can wear that won’t cause a man to stumble and sin because he is looking at you! I am trying to guide you through God’s Word to be careful how you cause a boy/man to sin by what you wear. A Christian guy who loves the Lord wants a girl who also loves the Lord and this is the type of girl he will want to marry. He wants a woman who does not desire to have other men looking at her body in such a way that is meant only for a husband.

If you are angry with me, ask yourself why. God will show you that when we sin, we don’t want to be corrected. Cain didn’t like it when God came to him and asked him where Abel was after Cain had killed Abel. But God came right out and told Cain exactly what he did and punished him for it. How will you be punished now that you know how to dress right and refuse to do so? You will attract the kind of guy that will bring you heartache. You will attract a guy that loves you only for your body so when you gain weight, he will lose his love for you. You will attract a guy who does not love the Lord. As a result, he will lead you to have sex before marriage. You may possibly end up pregnant before you get married. In the end, you will attract a guy who is not saved and your life will be miserable if you marry him. I speak from experience in this area and it is my desire to warn you not to follow the path that I took before I was saved.

If you are truly born again and want to please God, then you will want to learn what He has to say about this very important matter. The world is obsessed with women exposing their bodies to attract the opposite sex. You don’t have to wait long while watching television before you can spot this goal. This should be a red flag to you, Christian! If the world likes it, chances are you should stay far away from it.

“You can dress a pig up in a dress but it is still a pig and it still oinks and it still smells!” So modest speech and actions will be our next devotional topic 🙂