Finding True Friends

~James 4:8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse [your] hands, [ye] sinners; and purify [your] hearts, [ye] double minded.

Before you can be a true friend to someone or have a true friend, you must first have God as your friend. To the born again teen girl, this means that God should be at the center of your life. If He is, He will guide you in choosing friends who will be good for you.

So what does the Bible have to say about picking the right kind of friends?

~Proverbs 12:26 The righteous [is] more excellent than his neighbour: but the way of the wicked seduceth them.

~Proverbs 13:20 He that walketh with wise [men] shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.

~Proverbs 22:24-25 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: 25 Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.

According to the Bible, making friends with an unsaved girl will only tempt you to sin. It is so hard to walk with God and be surrounded by friends who don’t love Him the way you do. They don’t care if they use His name in vain; they don’t care if they tell dirty jokes. They aren’t saved so these things don’t bother them the way they bother you. In fact, they will act totally the opposite of what the Bible teaches. You may think that you can lead them to Christ by being friends with them but the fact is that the total opposite will happen. They will lead you to sin. Why? Because the Bible teaches us not to have close relationships with the unsaved. So if we do, we are disobeying the Word and, therefore, that friendship will bring troubles. In other words, you reap what you sow.

~2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

God’s Word tells us not to be yoked with unbelievers. In the old days, a yoke was a wooden apparatus that was placed over two cows’ heads so they could be kept together as the farmer plowed a field. The cows couldn’t go in separate directions – if they did, the yoke would cause pain – a literal “pain in the neck”! 🙂

You’ll also find yourself picking up some of their bad habits. So you’re just making your life harder – make it easier for yourself and stick to other girls who are saved and love the Lord.

Another good reason to stay away from unsaved friends is:

~1 Corinthians 15:33 Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.

The longer you hang around unsaved friends, your attitude is going to change. You will begin to sound like them and act like them. You’ll be using their language (cursing and crude slang) and you will become like them. If you hang around a skunk long enough, you’ll begin to smell like the skunk. It’s my understanding that once you get skunk smell on you, it’s so hard to wash it off – it takes days! It’s kind of a good example, don’t you think? If you hang around the unsaved, it’ll take you a long time to get rid of the bad habits that are formed in those relationships. It’s inevitable!

But when you hang around Godly girls it’s like hanging around roses – hang around them long enough you’ll come out smelling like a beautiful rose 🙂


Straight Talk

~Hebrews 13:8-9 Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever. 9 Be not carried about with divers and strange doctrines. For [it is] a good thing that the heart be established with grace; not with meats, which have not profited them that have been occupied therein.

I never dreamed that I would have to address this topic EVER! But sadly, it has become an issue that has crept into our homes and our churches. Teenagers who attend public schools are exposed to so much and it’s my desire to help any teenager I can using God’s Word as my tool. What you will be reading is not my opinion – my opinion is not important. What is important is God’s Word. We all should concern ourselves with what’s important to God, not what our friends think or what is popular with the world.

Before we start, I would like to make something clear: what God considered as sin in the Old Testament is still considered sin today. God does not change nor does sin change. Settle this in your heart, teen girl, before we go on to this very important lesson.

~Numbers 23:19 God [is] not a man, that he should lie; neither the son of man, that he should repent: hath he said, and shall he not do [it]? or hath he spoken, and shall he not make it good?

~1 Samuel 15:29 And also the Strength of Israel will not lie nor repent: for he [is] not a man, that he should repent.

~Psalm 102:27 But thou [art] the same, and thy years shall have no end.

~Malachi 3:6 For I [am] the LORD, I change not; therefore ye sons of Jacob are not consumed.

~James 1:17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.

Even Jesus said that He did not come to destroy the Law (the commandments, etc.) so what was considered sin before was to still be considered sin at the time:

~Matthew 5:17-18 Think not that I am come to destroy the law, or the prophets: I am not come to destroy, but to fulfil. 19 For verily I say unto you, Till heaven and earth pass, one jot or one tittle shall in no wise pass from the law, till all be fulfilled.

God does not lie and, therefore, if His Word says He does not change, then He would not change His mind about how He feels about a certain topic. It doesn’t matter if something happened thousands of years ago – God will still consider it sin. So, teen girl, let’s have some straight talk on this subject of same-sex relationships, known as homosexuality. You may be one of those girls who knows it’s wrong but you may not know why it’s wrong according to the Bible. If that’s you, then this post will give you a good look at what the Scriptures have to say.

Homosexuality (called sodomy in the Bible) is growing rapidly today because of television and news media falsely show it as a “normal” lifestyle. TV programming this Fall has a comedy show about this very thing. Let me tell you that there is nothing funny about this at all. God destroyed cities because of this sin so we should take notice and try to learn from the Scriptures.

Not only is homosexuality a sin, but God considered it an ABOMINATION. That means God has extreme hatred for this disgusting sin. That is what the word abomination means.

~Leviticus 18:22 Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.

The sin of homosexuality is mentioned next to the sins of bestiality and other gross sexual sins.

Leviticus 20:13 If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: 

Genesis 19 records the story of Sodom and Gomorrah. Two male angels came into the city and the ungodly men of the city demanded that Lot give the angels to them to have sex with them. If you read the chapter you will see that they did not succeed, rather were blinded. The main reason for God sending fire from heaven and burning this city was because of the sin of sodomy, which is homosexuality.

Genesis 19:5 And they called unto Lot, and said unto him, Where are the men which came in to thee this night? bring them out unto us, that we may know them.

Genesis 19:24 Then the LORD rained upon Sodom and upon Gomorrah brimstone and fire from the LORD out of heaven;

Jude 1:7 Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.

The New Testament speaks against homosexuality also. The first epistle that Paul writes mentions this in the first chapter in Romans. The verses explain that homosexuality is not normal, but against nature. God created male and female to reproduce. Homosexuals cannot reproduce.

Romans 1:26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: 27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.

Some people will try to say that homosexuals were born that way, but this has yet to be proven scientifically. There has not been one single study that proves that homosexuals have genetic or biological differences with heterosexuals. You will hear of studies proving it but they cannot produce those scientific studies – what they do provide are opinions, not scientific fact. If there are no genetic differences, then this means it’s a behavior that is learned. It is not love, according to the Scriptures, but rather a lust with unnatural feelings according to the verse above.

As Christians, we should love homosexuals but we are not to love their sin. We should be pointing them to salvation rather than screaming judgment and damnation in their faces. But it doesn’t mean that we should be defending their right to practice such sins. I know some who claim they are Christians and they fight for gay rights, gay marriage, gay Pastors, etc. But this just does not agree with the Scriptures. The Bible says that those who practice these things will not inherit the kingdom of God? How can one support gay rights when the Bible says those who practice this will not go to Heaven? Isn’t it more important to win them to Christ rather than support their sin?

1 Corinthians 6:9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind.

1 Timothy 1:10 For whoremongers, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for menstealers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine;

I do not hate homosexuals at all, although I will be accused of this very thing once this post is published. 😦 What I do support is what is said by God in the Bible. My desire is that the homosexual will hear the Gospel of Jesus Christ and be saved, just as any other sinner.

I once worked with a girl who was a homosexual, although I didn’t know it at the time. My desire and prayer was to share the Gospel with her. The Lord opened the door so I could talk to her. She accepted Christ as her Saviour and her life immediately began to change. She began reading the Bible – she learned what God’s Word said about the gay lifestyle and she fell under conviction and began to change. She left the gay lifestyle but not without a lot of persecution from her “old” friends. Today she is married to a wonderful man and has four children 🙂 She has had a tremendous influence on gay people who God puts in her path 🙂

Remember, teen girl, just because the world says homosexuality is OK or that a gay person is born that way does not mean that it is truth. The Bible will always speak truth – that’s what’s important.

~John 17:17 Sanctify them through thy truth: thy word is truth.

The sin of homosexuality was a sin in the Old Testament that God detested and it is still a sin today. We cannot sugar coat a sin and say it is OK as long as it doesn’t harm anyone. But this sin does harm people. It brings disease (AIDS), it shortens life (gays do not live as long as heterosexuals) and the Bible says that it leads people to Hell 😦

But for the homosexual, there is hope. There can be change – just as there was with my co-worker. Jesus Christ saves all sinners from sin, including the homosexual. Jesus can and will change their lifestyle.

Romans 5:8 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

1 Timothy 1:15 This is a faithful saying, and worthy of all acceptation, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners; of whom I am chief.

Romans 5:6 For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.

One can’t simply “get saved” and remain a homosexual. One must get away from the sins of their old life. That is called repentance. Many claim they are saved but they continue sinning just like before they got saved. That is not the salvation of the Bible. Jesus stopped His mighty works in certain cities because they would not repent. They continued doing the sins they did before they heard the Gospel.

~Matthew 11:20 Then began he to upbraid the cities wherein most of his mighty works were done, because they repented not:

Repentance means to stop doing those sins:

~Ephesians 4:28 Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with [his] hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth.

When a person gets saved, they receive the Holy Spirit and He helps them overcome their sin. He changes their lives 🙂

So, teen girl, now you have the Bible verses that explain why God considers the sin of homosexuality as an abomination. If you come in contact with kids who practice this sin and you are given an opportunity to talk to them about it, you will have these Bible verses to help you 🙂 Please feel free to email me if you have any questions.

What Does God Want From Me?

~Jeremiah 29:11-13 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. 12 Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you. 13 And ye shall seek me, and find [me], when ye shall search for me with all your heart.

I was a young adult when I got saved. I can remember asking myself what God expected of me now that I was saved. God had an “expected end” for me and He has one for you, too, teen girl! 🙂

Developing your relationship with God is THE most important thing in your life right now. Most worldly teenagers are busy thinking of their friends, going out, music, movies, videos, having fun, etc. However, this is not what God has in mind for the saved teen girl.

You are maturing into a young woman and developing those wonderful qualities that God placed in each woman is a task that most teenagers don’t think about. Every girl comes “built” with the softer things in life 🙂 We love to love! We love everything about love! 🙂 We are romantics at heart – we love babies – we love our family. But what do we really know about love? It’s not just an emotion – it is an action!

God is the perfect picture of this action kind of love. In fact, He loves you so much that had you been the only one on earth to save, He would have left His heavenly home just to die for you! John 3:16 is a common Bible verse but it says it all. No parent can truly understand this verse until they have lost a child who has died in the line of duty serving the military, or in police work, or rescue services. Giving up your own child for the sake of other people is not a “natural” thing to do. But God did! And He did it just for you. Once you understand the Source of true love, you begin to understand what true love really is. Getting to know God is the best place to start as He is that Source of love.

It’s easy to say you love someone but it’s quite another to put feet to those words. God wants you to teach you to be the best possible Christian young lady you can be. Learning from His Word is going to lay a foundation of the type of woman you will be become. Do you really love God, teen girl? Then put feet to those words. Show Him your love by doing things for Him. Help your parents as much as possible – that’s the first place to start. Once you have learned this task well, talk to your parents about serving others by possibly volunteering in a soup kitchen or something like that. This puts feet to your words and shows your love for the Lord.

As we show our love for God through our actions and deeds, we exercise that love to perfection. This foundation you have laid will help you be a Godly wife and mother. A woman who truly loves the way God loves is one that is not self-centered because she is always showing her love through her actions to those she loves. She doesn’t only love those in her immediate family but loves those she doesn’t even know. She loves them with God’s love just as John 3:16 teaches us.

So what does God expect from you, teen girl? He expects you to obey your parents, honor your parents, be an example to your siblings, read and study your Bible, pray and talk to Him, and to exercise that part of you that comes naturally – which is love. Exercise love in a Godly way by being a “walking Bible” – a “Jesus with skin on” if you will. Let others see Christ in you! 🙂 God has an expected end for you – and it is one with peace and joy. Don’t blow your chances of this blessing by giving in to temptations to sin. Live for Him and He will bless you! 🙂

Broken Homes

~Ephesians 6:1-3 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. 2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) 3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.

It is so sad that there are so many teenagers out there who don’t have both parents living with them. Maybe they do have both parents but they constantly fight. My heart cries out for you! 😥

How can you deal with this situation? How can you change it? How can you add something positive to an already stressful and negative life? Look at today’s Bible verses above. Does God put a “condition” on His command to obey your parents? What I mean is, does God say to obey your parents only when they are doing the right thing in your eyes? No, there’s no condition – however, there IS a positive result that comes to obeying your parents. God says that if you obey your parents, it will be well with you and you may live a long life. The more important of the two is that it may be well with you.

Have you ever noticed that when you are fighting with your parents nothing seems to go right? Your emotions run wild and you are angry all the time. But when things run smoothly at home, you feel happy. Teen girl, you play a very important role in that. Let’s have some straight talk here. NO parent loves to fight with their children. It is quite the opposite. Most parents want nothing but the best things for their children. Fighting occurs when you think your parents don’t understand you. But you know what? They’ve been exactly where you are now. They know the emotions you are feeling. They may not have gone through the exact same situation as you but the emotions were the same: anger, disappointment, hurt, tears, etc.

So getting back to our Bible verses, God says to obey your parents … period. Before you object to what I just wrote, if you are a saved teen girl whose parents ask her to sin, you do not have to obey as the Bible verse says to obey your parents in the Lord. Now that we’ve gotten that straight, let’s move on to broken homes. The Bible is filled with dysfunctional families. As long as there is sin, there will be broken homes, there will be fighting parents, and there will be tears. But the bottom line, teenager, is how you handle these situations. You must keep working at your relationship with God through reading and studying your Bible. Jesus Christ is the One who will help you through your troubles. The Bible never contradicts itself. If God commands you to obey your parents and to honor them, then you must do so no matter WHAT type of parents you have. God will work out your problems but you must remain faithful. Sometimes things don’t work out the way you want them to but they will always be for your benefit. God is not cruel and won’t allow you to go through more than you can handle, teen girl! 🙂

~Colossians 3:20 Children, obey [your] parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

Do your utmost best to be the child that God wants you to be and He will bless your efforts. Please the Lord by doing as He asks of you in today’s Scriptures. 🙂

Younger Siblings

I grew up with two older sisters and an older brother. ALL my siblings were musically talented. Not only that, two of them had extremely high grades in school. Being the “baby” of the family, I was always trying to fill their shoes. I can’t really “feel” what you are feeling about having younger siblings, teen girl. However, I can tell you what it’s like to BE a younger sibling.

Prior to becoming a teenager, I fought a LOT with my older brother. He was three years older than I was and I’m sure he didn’t like having me around 🙂 but I was always “there.” I didn’t give him any privacy and when his friends came over, I was always “around.”  Most of the things he and I fought about were silly things now that I think about it. I could have stayed in my room while his friends were visiting. As I grew older, I knew how important it was for me to have some privacy and that’s when I gave him his privacy. It’s amazing what happens to our way of thinking when we mature.

Resolving problems with your siblings is a problem that is as old as time itself. It’s important to learn to resolve these problems the scriptural way or the problems could harm your relationship with your siblings for years. It’s important to talk about your feelings, not scream them.

The Bible is our best teacher because God wrote it and it contains everything we need to know on any subject. Here are a few examples of fights among siblings.

Cain and Abel, sons of Adam and Eve, were both raised by the same people but yet they turned out differently. You can read about them in Genesis 4. Cain loved to work on the land as a farmer and Abel loved to work with the animals. God taught Adam and Eve about sacrificing a lamb – this was a picture of Jesus Christ. The lamb’s blood would be used to “cover their sins” while Jesus’s blood (the perfect Lamb of God) would take away our sins. Cain and Abel both grew up with this religious background. But when it came time to do their offerings, something happened to Cain. He gave God the fruit of his labor, fruit from his fields rather than go to Abel and get a lamb. When the Lord was more pleased with Abel’s offering, Cain became very angry and jealous. As a result, he killed Abel, his own brother! The lesson here is that your brothers and sisters will do certain things better than you. Maybe one of them will get better grades in school than you. If your parents shower them with praise and not you, don’t become angry and jealous. Be happy for them instead! Your turn will come where you do something better than them and will receive the praises from your parents. Even if you don’t, it’s no cause to be jealous or angry. Those emotions will lead to serious sin. You have to stop thinking of poor pitiful you. God sees the hard work that you do – God is pleased with what you do so let that be “enough” for you.

No matter what the situation is between you and your siblings, nothing will be resolved by fighting. If you obey God’s Word, it will help you with any conflict.

~John 15:12 This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.

Don’t be jealous, don’t be angry … but love them the way God loves you! Listen to your siblings and talk to them once you are no longer angry. You’ll be amazed at the wonderful outcome. Displaying the fruit of the Holy Spirit, yes even with your siblings, will solve a lot of problems 🙂 What are those fruit? Galatians 5:22-23 says: love, joy, peace, longsuffering (which is patience), gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance. You can never go wrong by practicing these! 🙂




~Matthew 7:12 Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.

When you look at the picture above, do you think that a good thing was done for defending Jesus against Satanists? Spreading the Gospel of Jesus Christ is wonderful and needful. However, doing what is right doesn’t mean that it’s OK to do something wrong to get your message across. Is it ever right to do wrong? Dr. Bob Jones, Sr. once said, “It is never right to do wrong in order to get a chance to do right.” As you look at the picture above, one would think that whoever did this graffiti was “speaking up for Jesus” and being a bold Christian. However, graffiti is considered vandalism when it is done on someone else’s property. It’s no different than breaking a window or scratching someone’s car.

Would you want someone writing all over one of your favorite books with a permanent marker? Of course not! Any time you damage or destroy someone else’s stuff, it is considered vandalism or destruction of property. It is a law of our land and a law that we as Christians must obey. Jesus said it best in today’s Bible verse 🙂

Some things appear innocent but can cause a hardship for someone else. I’m ashamed to admit this but when I was a teenager, we thought it was funny to go into a restaurant and unscrew the tops off the salt and pepper shakers. Then when the customer went to salt their food, the top would fall off and their food would be covered with salt! 😦 You must remember that I was not saved and didn’t have the Holy Spirit living inside me. I never thought how I would feel if someone had done that to me! The inconvenience that this caused the restaurant owner and the customer was not even something I even considered.

But after salvation, the Lord showed me how sinful that was of me. I caused a customer to be angry and I caused the owner to cook another meal for the price of only one meal! 😦 When I looked at this through God’s eyes, I saw my sin and repented!

So teenager, where do you stand on this topic? Do you care about other people’s things as much as you care about your own things? That is what it boils down to… respecting other people and their property. When you respect others because it is the desire of your heart, you won’t be quick to destroy what is theirs.

~Luke 6:44-45 For every tree is known by his own fruit. For of thorns men do not gather figs, nor of a bramble bush gather they grapes. 45 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.

What is in the heart of a person will be revealed in that’s person’s actions. So what does that mean to you? If you consistently do bad things (according to the Bible), what does that say for your heart? If you consistently do good things (according to the Bible), what does that say for your heart? It’s always good for us to look at ourselves the way God sees us. Right? To the saved teenager, you should always judge yourself according to God’s Word. When you sin, repent and make things right.

As a result, treat other people (and their things) the way you would want others to treat you. Jesus Christ taught this over 2,000 years ago and it is still the best teaching today. 🙂