Preparing for the future!

~Ephesians 6:2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)

You may not realize this right now, but developing your relationship with your mother could be the best thing that you ever do for yourself! Your mother is going to be your best friend within the next 10-15 years. If that sounds like an impossibility right now, I have just the right answers for you 🙂

Sadly, we usually can’t change other people – we can’t change the way they think or the way they act. What we can have control over is us! I was not saved when I was a teenager, but was saved in my mid 20’s. As I looked back at my relationship with my mother, I discovered that problems existed because of me! I was immature and was not aware of the Scriptures and how I should act.

The Scriptures teach us that we should honor our parents. So let’s start there. Whether your mother is saved or not, it is instructed to you to honor her. The word honor means:

A testimony of esteem; any expression of respect or of high estimation by words or actions;

We women are emotional creatures, as I’m sure you well know 🙂 Learning to control our emotions is an on-going process and it needs to start early. How many times have you seen a child throw a temper tantrum? It’s not a pretty sight at all. If it is left uncorrected, that child grows up into a monster of a teenager who is self-centered and everything about life revolves around her. 😦 If you hate your mother, is it because she has disciplined you in this area? Is your mother trying to train you to become a responsible adult? She is trying to prepare you for the future and to teach you that life is not all about you! People do not owe you anything. In fact, as a saved teenager, you owe the Lord God everything. He died and paid the price for your sins so you can go to Heaven. Your life should be centered around Him, not yourself. 😉

As I said earlier, you can’t change your Mom but you can change yourself. Read your Bible and see what God has to say about girls learning from their mothers. If you have a mother who isn’t saved and she doesn’t care about nurturing her relationship with you, then YOU need to nurture your relationship with her! Honor her whether she deserves it or not. Esteem her because of her position as your mother. Because your mother is an emotional creature like you, this kind of treatment will speak to her heart. Be genuine and don’t treat her nicely only because you want something from her. Treat her nicely and love her because it is what God commands. Do things for her as though you were doing it for the Lord. Christ’s love within us comes shining through when we are doing things for other people. That’s what is considered genuine 🙂

~Philippians 2:3-4 [Let] nothing [be done] through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. 4 Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.

As your mother sees your genuineness and sweet spirit, she will respond with the same attitude toward you. Developing this relationship is so vital. Your Mom has so much she could teach you if you would give her a chance. Have some Mom time – go on “Mom/daughter dates” and ask questions about her childhood. If you are blessed to have a Godly Christian mother, have her teach you the necessities of becoming a Proverbs 31 woman 🙂 Maybe your mother didn’t have a saved mother and no one taught her. This provides an excellent opportunity for the two of you to have a Bible study on this very topic 🙂

The bottom line is to nurture your relationship with your mother NOW. By the time you’re in your mid to late 20’s, you will look to your Mother a whole more than you will to your friends for answers to life’s situations. 🙂

Trust Issues

~2 Samuel 22:31 [As for] God, his way [is] perfect; the word of the LORD [is] tried: he [is] a buckler to all them that trust in him.

Who do you really trust, teen girl? Do you trust your best friend? Do you trust your parents? Do you trust your Youth Pastor? Trust is something that most teens don’t think about until they get older. But trust is the VERY foundation of any relationship. It’s one of those things that once it has been broken, it’s hard to get back. 😥

What if you and I were best friends. We did everything together! One day, you overheard me talking to a mutual friend and I was criticizing you – I was dead serious about it and wasn’t joking at all. What would happen to the way you feel about me? Wouldn’t you feel as though I betrayed you? Of course you would, and you would have every reason to feel that way! Would you be so quick to ever trust me again? Here I was supposed to be your best friend but I spoke badly about you! That’s not being a very good friend to you, is it?

Now let’s turn the tables. Let’s say your parents have grounded because you told them you were at your girlfriend’s house but instead you went to the mall with a bunch of your friends. A typical teenage reasoning would be, “Well I WAS with my girlfriend!” But the point of the matter is that you weren’t where you told them you would be. To you, it’s a minor thing. But to your parents, it’s a trust breaker. They cannot trust you to keep your word exactly the way you said. The root of it is that you lied. A lie takes only a few seconds to speak but it sometimes takes years to repair the damage.

You may think that these are two different situations and have nothing to do with each other. But in fact, they very much DO have the same results. You can’t trust your girlfriend and now your parents can’t trust you.

If you aren’t one of these people, then that’s GREAT! 🙂 But if you are, you are in for a life time of broken relationships and drama. No one likes to be friends with someone they can’t trust, right? So how does one repent from this? Seek forgiveness from those you have hurt, first and foremost. Ask the Lord to help you change in this area. Strive to always tell the truth – strive to always keep your comments to yourself and not to talk about others behind their backs – strive to always honor your parents by doing exactly what they ask of you.

Keep yourself accountable to your parents. When I was a teenager, I wasn’t saved but I always let my parents know where I was. I didn’t have a cell phone back then so I would call them and tell them I was at a friend’s house. Then if the venue changed, I would call and get their permission. When I was an older teen, I continued to do this just because I didn’t want them worrying about me. It was my concern for my parents – I was honoring them! I had earned their trust but yet I continued doing this so I could keep that trust. It meant a lot to me. Your parents are your “testing ground,” teen girl. What you practice with your parents will help you in your friendships, with your job in the future, and with your own husband to be 🙂

In every area of life, trust is a factor. It is also a very important factor in your spiritual life – most importantly. Can you trust the Lord? Is He ever faithful? Can God trust you to be faithful? Can you answer these questions about your relationship with God? If not, it is because you haven’t spent enough time in your Bible. You can’t expect to trust God if you only read a couple of Bible verses a day. The whole Bible revolves about God’s faithfulness to His people. He’s there in the nick of time. He’s there when you need Him – EVERY time! 🙂 Building on our relationship with God through reading His word is what develops the Godly attributes within us. As you learn of God’s faithfulness, you develop a trust in Him. As you develop a trust in Him, you learn to be as trustworthy with those closest to you. Your word becomes important to you and you make sure that you never break it. There are lots of Bible verses with the word trust. Do a search in your on-line Bible software or look up the word in a Strong’s Concordance. You will be amazed 🙂

Being a trustworthy person is worth more than anything in any relationship. Strive to be this kind of teenager and you will never go wrong! 🙂

~Proverbs 22:1 A [good] name [is] rather to be chosen than great riches, [and] loving favour rather than silver and gold.

~Ecclesiastes 7:1 A good name [is] better than precious ointment; and the day of death than the day of one’s birth.

Peer Pressure

~James 4:4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.

Peer pressure is probably the biggest issue in a teenager’s life, both girls and boys! It’s amazing what someone will do because she is pressured into it by her friends. Look at the girls’ faces in today’s graphic. We’ve all seen these types of “looks”! These girls want you to “prove” something to them – that you are part of their crowd, their worldliness, their sin. I’ve been through this type of peer pressure where I was challenged to drink, to smoke weed, to give up my virtue. I wasn’t saved at the time but I praise the Lord that my love for my parents kept me from giving in to peer pressure. If I could do this as an unsaved teen girl, how much the more “power” does a saved teen girl have?

That is why choosing the right kind of friends is so important. The teen girl who follows God’s Word when it comes to choosing friends will have Godly peer pressure to deal with 🙂 Her friends will challenge her to be a Godly young woman. Her friends will challenge her in Godly areas rather than worldly ones. If you haven’t read the post on Finding True Friends, do so before going on 🙂

The Apostle John explained to us how to avoid peer pressure:

~1 John 2:15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.

When you love doing worldly things and hanging with worldly people, you cannot possibly be loving God at the same time. It’s a fact.

~Luke 12:34 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

Is your relationship with God a treasure to you? How much is it worth to you? Did Jesus Christ save you from eternal damnation or didn’t He? How much does that mean to you? Can you put a price on your eternal life? Of course not! There is no way you could pay anything to go to Heaven – I’m sure you know that. However, does that mean anything to you or are these just words to you?

It is that treasure that will determine whether or not you give in to peer pressure. Where’s your heart today, teen girl? Is it with unsaved friends and worldliness? Do they mean more to you than God? Or is your life centered around God? Guarding your heart against the world is like preventive medicine 🙂 You save yourself a lot of heartache! So where does your treasure lie?

If your treasure lies with God, then your circle of friends will (or should) be with other saved teens who love the Lord as much as you do, right? But what if you are one of those teen girls who thinks she can win her lost friends? I take you back to 1 John 2:15 (above) as my answer to you. So examine your heart. Get it straight before you end up “being” like those lost friends rather than you being a light to them.

~John 3:16-17 For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not His Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through Him might be saved.

Don’t give in to the “dares” that worldly girls present to you! Be different and let them see the power of Christ in your life so that they can come to a saving knowledge of Him through your actions! Stay away from these people on a daily basis – they should not be your close friends (2 Corinthians 6:14). Rather, when they come into your presence, let it be known by your actions and words that you are different! This will stop peer pressure or at least decrease it. But if it just causes them to make fun of you, then so be it. John 15:19 explains this quite clearly. If you are like those worldly girls, they will love you. But the fact that you are not, they will hate you.

When you stay away from other girls who constantly try to put you in situations that will cause you to compromise your walk with the Lord, you prevent a lot of drama for your life. Once you start an ungodly relationship, it is difficult to ever win those to the Lord after. Start your day with the Lord and have Him lead your way that day.

~Psalms 143:8 Cause me to hear thy lovingkindness in the morning; for in thee do I trust: cause me to know the way wherein I should walk; for I lift up my soul unto thee.

The Lord wants to guide you – He doesn’t want you to stumble but wants you to have a clear path ahead of you. Psalm 119:105 tell us this 🙂 You don’t get this by only reading your Bible for 5 minutes a day or only on Sunday. A person receives clear direction from God when she is seeking it through His Word. Yes, you may be tempted to give in to those peers but you don’t have  to give in. Stand fast and allow the Holy Spirit of God to work through you to be a witness to those girls.

~Philippians 1:27-28 Only let your conversation be as it becometh the Gospel of Christ: that whether I come and see you, or else be absent, I may hear of your affairs, that ye stand fast in one spirit, with one mind striving together for the Faith of the Gospel; And in nothing terrified by your adversaries: which is to them an evident token of perdition, but to you of salvation, and that of God.

Social Media and Christian Teen Girls

~Matthew 5:14-16 Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid. 15 Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. 16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

With the world of social media being so popular, where does a Christian teenage girl fit in? How should she “behave” on Facebook or MySpace? Is she a hypocrite or does her love for the Lord show through? I have several teen girls and young ladies as friends on Facebook. I say this with much sadness but only one of them represents Jesus Christ, our Lord in the manner that is spoken of in the verses above. Sadly, I’ve had to unsubscribe from some feeds because I did not want to set my eyes on their ungodliness 😦  Why didn’t I just unfriend them? Because I pray that my posts will encourage them to repent of their ungodliness and will convict their hearts.

What does your Facebook or MySpace look like, teen girl? Is it a place that your friends see Jesus through you or is it basically the same thing as your unsaved friends? Do you curse on it? Do you post worldly pictures? Do you have pictures of yourself dressed immodestly so you can impress your “friends”? What kind of friends are they if that is what it takes to keep them liking you?

What would your saved parents say if they accessed your account? The best way for you to avoid temptation is to stay accountable. Why not let your parents have total access to your emails and social media accounts?  This keeps you guarded and protecting your spiritual walk. You may think I’m “over the top” and unfair, but your parents were given to you by God as your protectors and teachers. You are to honor them and obey them (Ephesians 6:1, Colossians 3:20). This also sets your foundation as a Christian adult.

Jesus said that we are to be a light to a lost and dying world, teen girl. Most teens I have on my Facebook are busy posting things that no saved girl should be posting. They have pictures of themselves with tops that reveal their breasts. What do you think the teen boys are thinking when they see these pictures? If you haven’t read the post I did on this subject, you really should. Modesty – Part 1 and Modesty – Part 2. Please take a moment to read these 🙂

Teen boys who see your pictures (including grown men) are not thinking what a fine Christian young lady you are. I wouldn’t even post things of this nature and I am a grown woman. This reveals to me that these teen girls do not spend time reading and studying their Bible. Knowing God intimately produces modesty. God’s Word says to be different from the world – that means to be different from your unsaved friends. How will your unsaved friends learn about Christ if they look at your Facebook and see posts about Justin Bieber and movie stars. Those people don’t care about Heaven or Hell. Those people only care that you spend your money on their movies and CD’s.

What kind of a light are you for the Lord Jesus Christ, teen girl? Picture yourself in the dark with an unsaved friend with only one flashlight between the two of you. It is so dark, you can’t see anything in front of you. But then you turn your flashlight on and it lights up the whole room. Now you’re able to walk without stumbling into furniture and you and your unsaved friend can easily get around. You had the light that she so desperately needed. Now picture your Facebook page as your flashlight. Is it shining on Jesus Christ?

Do you want to have a positive effect on your friends, teen girl? Then stay away from worldliness – you don’t have to act like your unsaved friends. Jesus gives us the ability to say no to these things.

~1 Corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God [is] faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear [it].

You may not think so, but everything in our lives is a reflection on Jesus Christ: music we listen to, movies we watch, books we read, how we act, words we speak, etc., etc. If unsaved people see you acting like they do, talking like they do, and dressing like they do, they won’t see anything “different” about you. You’re not pointing them to Jesus Christ – you’re just pointing back at them! You can say you are a Christian but if you act like the world, you’re no different than they are. You are no different than the Pharisees that Jesus called hypocrites! Why should they want to hear about salvation from you if you act just like them?

~Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

We are to point the lost to Jesus Christ and explain to them how to be saved, teen girl! Other teen girls are your mission field. You may be the only one that God has appointed to reach them! Most teens don’t want to listen to adults but they will listen to you! Do you know that people watch you all the time? When I was first saved, my co-worker came up to me and put her finger in my face and said, “I’m watching you!” I thought she was kidding but she wasn’t. After she got saved, she explained to me that she was shocked when I “changed” my old habits and replaced them with Godly ones. It was a testimony to her of what God could do in a life.

Just as you can recognize a hypocrite, so can the lost. Are you a hypocrite teen girl? Do you go to your Sunday School’s Teen Class and act one way then hang out with your friends and act another way? Which of these two lives does your Facebook reflect? You should be shining your light to a lost and dying world, which includes your lost friends. By the way, it includes your saved friends, too. If you act like the world, they will think that it’s OK for them to act like the world as well. You are causing your saved friends to sin just as you are sinning.

~John 8:12 Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.

Jesus is our light and we are to be a light to others – pointing others to Him. We are to be different, just as the smiley graphic above. 🙂 It’s a very basic picture but it makes my point 🙂 Your friends should look at you and see “something” that they don’t have – that relationship with the Lord Jesus should be shining through.

~1 Peter 2:9 But ye [are] a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light:

If you are like the teen girls described here today, ask God for forgiveness. Then allow the Holy Spirit to work through you for the benefit of your friends. They need the Lord desperately! Change your Facebook and make it God honoring. Make your Facebook or MySpace a mission field to reach the lost and to guide the misguided wayward Christian teen girl. Each of us has a ministry of some kind for the Lord Jesus Christ, yes, even you teen girl 🙂

The Issues of Life

~Proverbs 4:23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it [are] the issues of life.

Where’s your heart, teen girl? What’s in your heart? Are you thinking of the cute boy at school? Are you filling your mind with the latest Hollywood gossip? Are you watching shows on TV like Glee or Jersey Shore? Do you listen to today’s rock music and rap music? The lyrics alone are filled with so much cursing and sex. What you expose yourself to will result in “those issues of life.” These things will produce sin and drama for your life.

What we fill our hearts and minds with will determine what pours out of our lives. If you grow up around cursing and your friends curse, chances are you will curse also.

~Luke 6:45 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.

But it doesn’t have to be that way for truly born-again teen girls. Even though you may have parents who fill your home with cursing and unacceptable television programming, you do not have to follow in their footsteps. You can walk away and go to your room, open your Bible and allow God’s Word to fill your heart with goodness. God’s Word is a treasure and it will calm the storms of your life.

Guarding your heart against guys who will break it is also something to think about. If you allow a guy to claim your heart and then steal your virtue, you have failed to keep that heart with diligence. The issues of life that result from failing in this area will bring you much heartache. Diligence would mean that you didn’t allow yourself to get into that situation to begin with. Diligence would mean that you didn’t even entertain the thoughts of a guy entering your life that was not born again as well. Diligence would mean that you wouldn’t allow yourself to ever be alone with any guy. Being diligent in this manner will produce a rewarding result. Who wants a guy that only likes you for what you can provide for a moment’s pleasure? God’s plans for you are righteous plans – He has a guy picked out just for you and that guy will be a saved young man. That Christian guy will honor you and will protect your virtue 🙂

Another form of guarding our hearts is keeping away from anything that would corrupt us of good morals. Books, music, movies, and people have a tremendous influence on our thoughts and actions. Is your best friend saved? Does she love the Lord and walk a Godly walk? If you compromise in this area, you will develop some of her bad habits. You are who you hanging around with. This is so true! Our Bible verse to keep (or guard) your heart with all diligence. That means that you shouldn’t slip and only guard the music you listen to and then watch trash on TV. Diligence means that you guard every area of your life ALL the time – no compromise – no giving in for a “this time” – ALWAYS watching out for things that could cause you to sin.

Guard and keep your heart from anything that will compromise your Christian beliefs, teen girl.  The issues of life that result will be a testimony to your efforts. You will attract a boy that has the same desires – you will attract friends with the same love for the Lord – you will have peace in your relationships with your parents and siblings. The more you read your Bible (Proverbs is a great place to start), you will learn to keep yourself strong. The Word of God can keep you from sin so it would do you good to read it as often as you can 🙂

~Psalm 119:9 Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed [thereto] according to thy word.

You can put your name in there:  Wherewithal shall “Stephanie” cleanse her way? by taking heed [thereto] according to thy word. So, teen girl, you can keep yourself from sin by taking heed to what the Scriptures say. Obeying the Bible will make your life so much easier 🙂


What’s in Your iPod?

~Ephesians 5:11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove [them].

If you want to make a worldly teenager angry, all you have to do is take away her music! Music has always been used by the devil to separate kids from their parents. It creates a generation gap and it is getting worse as Jesus’ return gets closer. The words in songs today are words that no saved teen girl should be listening to or let alone speak.

So what is worldly music? It is any kind of music that does not glorify the Lord. That eliminates quite a bit, doesn’t it? Look at today’s verse: we are to have no fellowship with unfruitful works of darkness. Music definitely determines where the mind of a person will be. If you’re sad, you will listen to sad music. If you’re an angry person, you’ll listen to songs with angry lyrics.

Fellowship depicts a closeness, don’t you agree? If you’re talking to a stranger, you can hardly say you are having fellowship with her. However, if you are talking to your best friend, now THAT’S fellowship 🙂 Our text says that we should not be having any fellowship with things that are not Godly. That includes what we read, what we listen to or what we watch on television. Why would a born-again Christian watch movies that are filled with cursing and sex? These are unfruitful works of darkness. They don’t glorify God and, therefore, we should stay away from those things.

Listening to the world’s music is making yourself a friend (remember the word fellowship) with the enemy. You cannot be a friend to Satan and a friend to God, plain and simple. Anything that isn’t good and Godly is from the enemy. Do you think the enemy has good intentions for you? Do you think that the devil will lead you to be Godly? The devil doesn’t play fair and he will do whatever he can to distract you and draw you away from God. The Bible says he’s like a roaring lion looking to devour you! (1 Peter 5:8) Music is one of his tools. I only know of one person in my whole life that didn’t like music. Music affects everyone! It sets your mood – it’s the topic of conversations.

~2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

How can you be joined together (yoked) with something that is not from God if you are a true born-again teen girl? Unbelievers make the CD’s, unbelievers sing the songs, unbelievers sell them. The amount of money spent on the world’s music is unbelievable! The average person spends $500 per year on CD’s! Can you imagine how much that comes out to? Is it any wonder that so much emphasis is being made on promoting CD’s? The music industry only cares about your money – the devil cares about your soul and wants to destroy you. Music causes one’s defenses to come down. If you’re a Godly Christian young lady and you start listening to worldly music, you will soon stop reading your Bible. You will soon start talking back to your parents and dishonoring them. It won’t take long before you adopt the habits of the father of lies. (John 8:44) The average teenage girl has headphones on and is listening to music almost all of her waking moments. Even when she’s doing homework or her chores!

Be careful what you expose your mind and heart to, teen girl. What’s in your heart will come out of your mouth and will be reflected in your actions. If you listen to angry rap music, you will be an angry teenager and rebellious toward your parents. It’s inevitable. I speak from experience in this area! Music is a language of its own and every teenager knows the words to most every song that hits the market. But you ask them to quote a Bible verse and they struggle. This is a good gauge as to where your heart is, teen girl.

If you listen to country music song that talks about trying to “catch” a guy, you’ll eventually drop your Christian standards and you will dress and talk like the world to “catch” a guy. What you feed your mind and heart will be what you make as the foundation of your life.

~Matthew 12:34b … for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.

I’ve never met a Godly Christian who listened to ungodly music. The two can’t go together. One is light and one is darkness! God will convict a Christian through His Holy Spirit. He will impress upon her heart that she really shouldn’t be listening to such things. Evil begets evil, teen girl. You can’t say you’re a true born-again Christian and yet listen to the world’s music. Something is wrong there.

Search your heart – ask the Lord to help you give up this addiction. And yes, it IS an addiction. You’ll find out only too soon when you try to give it up. The devil doesn’t want you to give up his music so he’ll make it hard on you. Throw out your worldly CD’s and replace them with Godly music. There are beautiful CD’s of hymns and Godly Christian music out there. One of my favorite artists that I love listening to Abigail Miller 🙂 Maybe you can start buying some of her CD’s. SoundForth has some really good music as well.

2 Corinthians 6:14b …For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

Running Away

Have you ever thought about running away from home? When I was 15, I gave it serious thought. I wasn’t abused by my parents – I just didn’t get along with my mother. I thought she didn’t know anything! 😦 I wasn’t saved so I had a lot of “junk” stored in that brain of mine. 😕 When my mother saw what I was about to do, she offered to help me pack my suitcase 😥  I didn’t run away but looking back on that situation, I’m glad that my mother chose to respond to me in that way. I’m glad because I could have faced a totally different life had I succeeded in doing so. I may not be saved today. I may have lived a very different life or I may have died.

Running away from home may seem like the right thing to do at the time but it only serves to create more problems than a teenager ever imagined. You may think that running away is the solution to your problem. Or you may have a friend who has talked you into running away with them. Which ever it is, you have no idea of the dangers that you will face. 😯

For you, teen girl, there are especially more dangers awaiting in the streets. You will be like a sheep waiting to be caught by wolves. There are so many guys out there that would love nothing more than to give you food and a place to stay but you would have to “pay them back” in some way. Teenagers seem to think they are invincible but that is just not the case. The FBI has countless files of runaways, and many of whom are tracked down and are either dead, drug addicts and/or prostitutes. I know that you are thinking that this would never happen to you but it’s not a matter of “if,” but a matter of “when” it will happen. It’s not a glorious lifestyle at all.

If you’re still thinking of running away, then you must think ahead more than just a day or two. How will you earn money to feed and clothe yourself … what about housing? If you are one of those “lucky” girls who finds a job, how will you get to work if you don’t have a car? If you are under age, how will you even find a job? These things just don’t magically appear. Up until now, your parents have given you a roof over your heads, food on your plate, a warm bed to sleep in and they’ve paid for the clothes on your body. But now you will be on your own and will have to provide for these things. It’s important that you think of these things before you make the biggest mistake of your life.

I say this because I had a teenager who wanted to run away. I praise the Lord that he didn’t and am thankful that we, as parents, were able to work the problem out with our teenager. I can’t imagine the sleepless nights we would have had knowing our teenager was on the streets all alone. 😥 The guilt we would have felt would have been endless. The tears would have been ever flowing. The teenager has no idea what a selfish act it is to run away. She is only concerned about getting her way and making her point. However, the heartache that is left behind is greater than the parents can bear. The worry that is experienced by these grieving parents is just as bad as a death except they know their child is still alive and they have no idea how that child is doing. ♥

There was a son in the Bible that left home and his father had no idea what was going on in his life. Read about him:

~Luke 15:11-32 And he said, A certain man had two sons: 12 And the younger of them said to [his] father, Father, give me the portion of goods that falleth [to me]. And he divided unto them [his] living. 13 And not many days after the younger son gathered all together, and took his journey into a far country, and there wasted his substance with riotous living. 14 And when he had spent all, there arose a mighty famine in that land; and he began to be in want. 15 And he went and joined himself to a citizen of that country; and he sent him into his fields to feed swine. 16 And he would fain have filled his belly with the husks that the swine did eat: and no man gave unto him. 17 And when he came to himself, he said, How many hired servants of my father’s have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger! 18 I will arise and go to my father, and will say unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and before thee, 19 And am no more worthy to be called thy son: make me as one of thy hired servants. 20 And he arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him. 21 And the son said unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and in thy sight, and am no more worthy to be called thy son. 22 But the father said to his servants, Bring forth the best robe, and put [it] on him; and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on [his] feet: 23 And bring hither the fatted calf, and kill [it]; and let us eat, and be merry: 24 For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found. And they began to be merry. 25 Now his elder son was in the field: and as he came and drew nigh to the house, he heard musick and dancing. 26 And he called one of the servants, and asked what these things meant. 27 And he said unto him, Thy brother is come; and thy father hath killed the fatted calf, because he hath received him safe and sound. 28 And he was angry, and would not go in: therefore came his father out, and intreated him. 29 And he answering said to [his] father, Lo, these many years do I serve thee, neither transgressed I at any time thy commandment: and yet thou never gavest me a kid, that I might make merry with my friends: 30 But as soon as this thy son was come, which hath devoured thy living with harlots, thou hast killed for him the fatted calf. 31 And he said unto him, Son, thou art ever with me, and all that I have is thine. 32 It was meet that we should make merry, and be glad: for this thy brother was dead, and is alive again; and was lost, and is found.

This son started out with money but the future was not his concern. He wasted the money he had and then he was left with nothing. He didn’t stop to think of what he would do when the money ran out. Look at what happened to him! He ended up taking care of pigs and eating what the pigs were eating! Yuck! That’s how desperate he was! But he came to his senses – he realized that things were much better at home (more so than he thought before he left) so he began to have a repenting heart. He decided he would ask his father’s forgiveness. The son was so humbled by his experiences that he would see if his father would hire him to work on his farm rather than take him back as a son! Of course, we know the wonderful ending and how his father took him back with opened arms 🙂

Nothing can be so bad that you should run away from home, teen girl. Unless you are being physically abused, you should pray about each situation. Once you are no longer angry, talk to your parents. Your thoughts are very different from what is actually in your parents’ heads. I know that I use to think that my mother didn’t care a thing about me but that was the furthest thing from the truth. I only thought that because I was selfish and only wanted my way. She could have said the sky was blue but I would have argued with her only because I didn’t want to be on “her side”! Oh how selfish I was – I was unloving, even though I thought it was my mother who was unloving 😥

If you are being physically abused at home, talk to a Pastor of a nearby church. He is trained to help in these types of issues and can guide you as to what to do.

If you’re not being abused teen girl, no matter how much your heart is telling you to run away, don’t do it! If you are truly born again and love the Lord, you will think on this, pray about it and talk to your parents about what is going on in your heart.

The Lord wants to lead you to do what is right – all you have to do is ask Him!

~Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.