Peer Pressure

~James 4:4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.

Peer pressure is probably the biggest issue in a teenager’s life, both girls and boys! It’s amazing what someone will do because she is pressured into it by her friends. Look at the girls’ faces in today’s graphic. We’ve all seen these types of “looks”! These girls want you to “prove” something to them – that you are part of their crowd, their worldliness, their sin. I’ve been through this type of peer pressure where I was challenged to drink, to smoke weed, to give up my virtue. I wasn’t saved at the time but I praise the Lord that my love for my parents kept me from giving in to peer pressure. If I could do this as an unsaved teen girl, how much the more “power” does a saved teen girl have?

That is why choosing the right kind of friends is so important. The teen girl who follows God’s Word when it comes to choosing friends will have Godly peer pressure to deal with 🙂 Her friends will challenge her to be a Godly young woman. Her friends will challenge her in Godly areas rather than worldly ones. If you haven’t read the post on Finding True Friends, do so before going on 🙂

The Apostle John explained to us how to avoid peer pressure:

~1 John 2:15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.

When you love doing worldly things and hanging with worldly people, you cannot possibly be loving God at the same time. It’s a fact.

~Luke 12:34 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

Is your relationship with God a treasure to you? How much is it worth to you? Did Jesus Christ save you from eternal damnation or didn’t He? How much does that mean to you? Can you put a price on your eternal life? Of course not! There is no way you could pay anything to go to Heaven – I’m sure you know that. However, does that mean anything to you or are these just words to you?

It is that treasure that will determine whether or not you give in to peer pressure. Where’s your heart today, teen girl? Is it with unsaved friends and worldliness? Do they mean more to you than God? Or is your life centered around God? Guarding your heart against the world is like preventive medicine 🙂 You save yourself a lot of heartache! So where does your treasure lie?

If your treasure lies with God, then your circle of friends will (or should) be with other saved teens who love the Lord as much as you do, right? But what if you are one of those teen girls who thinks she can win her lost friends? I take you back to 1 John 2:15 (above) as my answer to you. So examine your heart. Get it straight before you end up “being” like those lost friends rather than you being a light to them.

~John 3:16-17 For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not His Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through Him might be saved.

Don’t give in to the “dares” that worldly girls present to you! Be different and let them see the power of Christ in your life so that they can come to a saving knowledge of Him through your actions! Stay away from these people on a daily basis – they should not be your close friends (2 Corinthians 6:14). Rather, when they come into your presence, let it be known by your actions and words that you are different! This will stop peer pressure or at least decrease it. But if it just causes them to make fun of you, then so be it. John 15:19 explains this quite clearly. If you are like those worldly girls, they will love you. But the fact that you are not, they will hate you.

When you stay away from other girls who constantly try to put you in situations that will cause you to compromise your walk with the Lord, you prevent a lot of drama for your life. Once you start an ungodly relationship, it is difficult to ever win those to the Lord after. Start your day with the Lord and have Him lead your way that day.

~Psalms 143:8 Cause me to hear thy lovingkindness in the morning; for in thee do I trust: cause me to know the way wherein I should walk; for I lift up my soul unto thee.

The Lord wants to guide you – He doesn’t want you to stumble but wants you to have a clear path ahead of you. Psalm 119:105 tell us this 🙂 You don’t get this by only reading your Bible for 5 minutes a day or only on Sunday. A person receives clear direction from God when she is seeking it through His Word. Yes, you may be tempted to give in to those peers but you don’t have  to give in. Stand fast and allow the Holy Spirit of God to work through you to be a witness to those girls.

~Philippians 1:27-28 Only let your conversation be as it becometh the Gospel of Christ: that whether I come and see you, or else be absent, I may hear of your affairs, that ye stand fast in one spirit, with one mind striving together for the Faith of the Gospel; And in nothing terrified by your adversaries: which is to them an evident token of perdition, but to you of salvation, and that of God.