Trust Issues

~2 Samuel 22:31 [As for] God, his way [is] perfect; the word of the LORD [is] tried: he [is] a buckler to all them that trust in him.

Who do you really trust, teen girl? Do you trust your best friend? Do you trust your parents? Do you trust your Youth Pastor? Trust is something that most teens don’t think about until they get older. But trust is the VERY foundation of any relationship. It’s one of those things that once it has been broken, it’s hard to get back. 😥

What if you and I were best friends. We did everything together! One day, you overheard me talking to a mutual friend and I was criticizing you – I was dead serious about it and wasn’t joking at all. What would happen to the way you feel about me? Wouldn’t you feel as though I betrayed you? Of course you would, and you would have every reason to feel that way! Would you be so quick to ever trust me again? Here I was supposed to be your best friend but I spoke badly about you! That’s not being a very good friend to you, is it?

Now let’s turn the tables. Let’s say your parents have grounded because you told them you were at your girlfriend’s house but instead you went to the mall with a bunch of your friends. A typical teenage reasoning would be, “Well I WAS with my girlfriend!” But the point of the matter is that you weren’t where you told them you would be. To you, it’s a minor thing. But to your parents, it’s a trust breaker. They cannot trust you to keep your word exactly the way you said. The root of it is that you lied. A lie takes only a few seconds to speak but it sometimes takes years to repair the damage.

You may think that these are two different situations and have nothing to do with each other. But in fact, they very much DO have the same results. You can’t trust your girlfriend and now your parents can’t trust you.

If you aren’t one of these people, then that’s GREAT! 🙂 But if you are, you are in for a life time of broken relationships and drama. No one likes to be friends with someone they can’t trust, right? So how does one repent from this? Seek forgiveness from those you have hurt, first and foremost. Ask the Lord to help you change in this area. Strive to always tell the truth – strive to always keep your comments to yourself and not to talk about others behind their backs – strive to always honor your parents by doing exactly what they ask of you.

Keep yourself accountable to your parents. When I was a teenager, I wasn’t saved but I always let my parents know where I was. I didn’t have a cell phone back then so I would call them and tell them I was at a friend’s house. Then if the venue changed, I would call and get their permission. When I was an older teen, I continued to do this just because I didn’t want them worrying about me. It was my concern for my parents – I was honoring them! I had earned their trust but yet I continued doing this so I could keep that trust. It meant a lot to me. Your parents are your “testing ground,” teen girl. What you practice with your parents will help you in your friendships, with your job in the future, and with your own husband to be 🙂

In every area of life, trust is a factor. It is also a very important factor in your spiritual life – most importantly. Can you trust the Lord? Is He ever faithful? Can God trust you to be faithful? Can you answer these questions about your relationship with God? If not, it is because you haven’t spent enough time in your Bible. You can’t expect to trust God if you only read a couple of Bible verses a day. The whole Bible revolves about God’s faithfulness to His people. He’s there in the nick of time. He’s there when you need Him – EVERY time! 🙂 Building on our relationship with God through reading His word is what develops the Godly attributes within us. As you learn of God’s faithfulness, you develop a trust in Him. As you develop a trust in Him, you learn to be as trustworthy with those closest to you. Your word becomes important to you and you make sure that you never break it. There are lots of Bible verses with the word trust. Do a search in your on-line Bible software or look up the word in a Strong’s Concordance. You will be amazed 🙂

Being a trustworthy person is worth more than anything in any relationship. Strive to be this kind of teenager and you will never go wrong! 🙂

~Proverbs 22:1 A [good] name [is] rather to be chosen than great riches, [and] loving favour rather than silver and gold.

~Ecclesiastes 7:1 A good name [is] better than precious ointment; and the day of death than the day of one’s birth.