Abandoning “Friends”


Friendship is a wonderful gift when it is experienced in a biblical way. I think of the friendship of Jonathan and David – what a beautiful picture! I also think of Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, who went through the fiery furnace together. Their faith and love were rewarded with the Lord Jesus Christ making an appearance and protecting them! 🙂

I’ve heard from teens who struggle in their walk with the Lord because their unsaved friends (or Christian friends who are not well grounded in God’s Word) lead them astray. So what does the Bible have to say about these types of friends?

1 Corinthians 5:11 – But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.

Proverbs 27:10 – Thine own friend, and thy father’s friend, forsake not; neither go into thy brother’s house in the day of thy calamity: [for] better [is] a neighbour [that is] near than a brother far off.

2 John 1:10-11 – If there come any unto you, and bring not this doctrine, receive him not into [your] house, neither bid him God speed: 

Jesus Christ is the best example of a friend. He lead His disciples to salvation – He taught them – He cared for them – He wept with them. He showed His love for them by feeding them and caring for them. In fact, in the account of His friend Lazarus, He even raised him from the dead! Jesus is the best friend you will ever have!

Proverbs 18:24 – A man [that hath] friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend [that] sticketh closer than a brother.

There will be times when your friends, even your own parents, will abandon you. But not the Lord Jesus! David knew this and wrote about this very thing:

Psalms 27:10 – When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.

Don’t be deceived, teen girl. Your unsaved friends will lead you down a sinful path full of troubles. It is best to avoid these troubles by not getting too close to these types of friends. A rotten apple ALWAYS rots other apples.

I’m Lonely, God!

Alone-1As Christians, we should have the joy of our salvation in our lives. However, I find myself weary of well doing – weary of fighting the battle – weary because of ill health – weary because circumstances in life just don’t seem fair. When I “rest” in this long enough, I go down the path of feeling of alone. People are all around me, yet I feel alone. Have you ever felt that way, teen girl?

If you are this type of person, try not to stay discouraged for long. Praise the Lord, God Almighty for pulling you out of “yourself” early. Yes, “yourself” – because it is not the Lord who changes – you are the one who changes. How you view your circumstances totally depends on your walk with the Lord.

Feeling alone is not wrong. In fact, it is at these times that you turn to God and He has your undivided attention. It is then that you should be still and in listening mode. Although you have people around you, you may feel all alone. But you are not the only person who has ever been in this position. David poured his heart out in Psalm 102 with these same feelings.

The Lord, Himself, was alone at times. I think of when His closest friends deserted Him and ran.

~Matthew 26:56 But all this was done, that the scriptures of the prophets might be fulfilled. Then all the disciples forsook him, and fled.

As if this wasn’t bad enough, the Heavenly Father turned His back on Christ when He hung on the cross and all of mankinds’ sins were laid on Him.

~Matthew 27:46 And about the ninth hour Jesus cried with a loud voice, saying, Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani? that is to say, My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?

Our Saviour died alone on that cross. Have your feelings of being alone been as overwhelming as the Saviour’s? Our feelings don’t even compare to what Christ went through. The Lord understands your feelings – He knows what you are going through because He has been through them as well.

~Hebrews 2:18 For in that he himself hath suffered being tempted, he is able to succour them that are tempted.

I love the word “succour” – Noah Webster defines it as:

Literally, to run to, or run to support; hence, to help or relieve when in difficulty, want or distress; to assist and deliver from suffering; as, to succor a besieged city; to succor prisoners.

Do you feel alone today, teen girl? Jesus Christ, your Saviour desires to run to you to support you, help you and relieve you during your time of distress. Just as you would run to a friend and cry for help, turn to the Lord and ask Him. Who can help you better than the Lord?

A Limited View

A high school hired my friend George, an artist, to repaint the school mascot – a yellow jacket – on a football stadium wall. This was a difficult task because the painting was so large that the painter could only see a small portion of it at a time.

George had to stand a distance away in order to see the whole picture and give directions to another painter. If George’s assistant had tried to paint according to his own limited perspective, seeing only a small part of the picture, he could have make a mistake. By following George’s directions, however, he helped create an image that delights school sports fans.

Our life with God is something like George’s view of the wall. As we face life’s challenges, we are not in a position to see the whole picture, neither of the world nor of our own lives. We see only a small portion. If we rely only on our limited perspective, we risk calamity. Instead, we can choose to trust God – the One who sees the whole picture – to direct our efforts. If we do, God can work through us to create something delightful.

Prayer: O God, direct us in living out the beautiful picture you envision, rather than following only our limited vision. Amen.

~Author Unknown~

Earthly Minded


~John 3:12 If I have told you earthly things, and ye believe not, how shall ye believe, if I tell you of heavenly things?

Take a moment to read John 3:1-12. Jesus could see what was in Nicodemus’ heart. He knows that if Nicodemus couldn’t believe those things which he could see with his own eyes, how could he possibly believe heavenly things which he cannot see! It appears that Nicodemus is lacking faith. That is why Jesus spoke of receiving salvation like a little child.

~Luke 18:17 Verily I say unto you, Whosoever shall not receive the kingdom of God as a little child shall in no wise enter therein.

I think we can all agree that there’s no better description of faith than that which is displayed by a child.

Jesus does not allow Nicodemus any excuses. Nor will you have any excuse when you stand before the Throne to see if your name is in the Lamb’s Book of Life, teen girl.

~Revelation 20:15 And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.

Only those who have repented and have been born again will be found in the Lamb’s Book of Life. Once we are truly born again, we are sealed by the Father and we will be given everlasting life. The Word of God in the Bible is the “meat” that draws us to salvation.

~John 6:27 Labour not for the meat which perisheth, but for that meat which endureth unto everlasting life, which the Son of man shall give unto you: for him hath God the Father sealed.

God is Good!

god-is-good1As you read this story, compare it with how you are viewing your trials. Are you like the man full of faith in His God knowing that this trial is for your ultimate good? Or are you quick to blame God for it all? If you are the latter, I pray this will speak to your heart.

There were two men having a trip together. They brought a donkey to carry their things, a torch to brighten the road at night and a chicken, which was a donkey’s friend. The chicken sat on the donkey’s head during the trip.

One of the two men was a born-again Christian, while the other one was the unbeliever. Along the way, they were having a conversation about God.

“God is so good,” said the first one.

“Well, we’ll see if you still think the same during this trip,” said the second.

When the nightfall came, they reached a small village and they were looking for a place to sleep. They had been looking everywhere yet no one wanted to take them in. So they continued on their trip out of the village and decided to sleep there.

“I thought you said that God is good,” said the second one cynically.

“God has decided that this is the best place for us to sleep,” explained the first one.

They put up their tent under a big tree beside the road to the village and tied the donkey five metres away from their tent. As they lit the torch, they heard some noise. A lion attacked the donkey, dragged it away and ate it. They promptly climbed the tree to survive.

“You still think that God is good?” asked the second man angrily.

“Hadn’t the lion killed the donkey, we would have been eaten. God is good,” said the first.

A moment later, they heard their chicken cackling. From the tree, they could see that a big cat attacked the chicken and dragged it away.

Before the second man said anything, the first man said,

“The sound of the chicken saved us once again. God is good.”

A few minutes later, a big wind blew out their torch – the only thing that was keeping them warm. Once again, the second man mocked his friend.

“Apparently, God’s kindness has been working on us all night,” he said.

The first man said nothing.

The next morning, the two men went back to the village for food only to discover that robbers had attacked and robbed the entire village!

Knowing that, the first man said,

“Now it’s clear. God is really good. Had we spent the night at the village, we would have been robbed. Had the wind not blown out our torch, the robbers, who passed the street near us, would have seen us and robbed us too. It is so clear that God is good.”

~Author Unknown~

Beginning Today

og_mandino_beginning_today_quote_thumb-290x193Beginning today I will no longer worry about yesterday. It is in the past and the past will never change. Only I can change by choosing to do so. Philippians 4:6

Beginning today I will no longer worry about tomorrow. Tomorrow will always be there, waiting for me to make the most of it.
But I cannot make the most of tomorrow without first making the most of today. Matthew 6:34

Beginning today I will cherish each moment of my life. I value this gift that the Lord bestowed upon me in this world and I will unselfishly share His gift with others. I will use this gift to enhance the lives of others. James 4:14

Beginning today I will take a moment to step off the beaten path and to revel in the mysteries I encounter. I will face challenges with courage and determination. I will overcome what barriers there may be which hinder my quest for spiritual growth and self-improvement. James 1:2-3

Beginning today I will take life one day at a time, one step at a time. Discouragement will not be allowed to taint my desire to succeed or my capacity to love. Psalm 90:12

Beginning today I walk with renewed faith and kindness toward others. Regardless of what has gone before, I believe there is hope for a brighter and better future if I make a difference. Ephesians 4:32

Beginning today I will open my mind and my heart. I will welcome new experiences. I will meet new people. I will not expect perfection from myself nor anyone else: perfection does not exist in this sinful world. Romans 3:23

Beginning today I am responsible for my own happiness and I will admire the beautiful wonders of nature, listen to my favorite music, pet a kitten or a puppy, soak in a bubble bath . . . pleasure can be found in the most simple of gestures and not in the world. Hebrews 11:25

Beginning today. And every day.

Author Unknown

It’s Up to You!

aa-dad-teen-daughter-drivingAlthough this is from a parent to his child, it is packed with a lesson even for teen girls! I hope you enjoy it!

I gave you life, but I cannot live it for you.

I can teach you things, but I cannot make you learn.

I can give you directions, but I cannot always be there to lead you.

I can allow you freedom, but I cannot account for it.

I can take you to church, but I cannot make you believe.

I can teach you right from wrong, but I cannot decide for you.

I can give you love, but I cannot force it upon you.

I can teach you to be a friend, but I cannot make you one.

I can teach you to share, but I cannot make you unselfish.

I can teach you respect, but I cannot force you to show honor.

I can grieve about your report card but I cannot make you study, I can advise you about friends, but I cannot choose them for you.

I can teach you about sex and the facts of life, but I cannot decide for you.

I can tell you about drinking, but I cannot say “no” for you.

I can warn you about drugs, but I cannot prevent you from using them.

I can teach you about goals and dreams, but I cannot achieve them for you.

I can teach you kindness, but I cannot force you to be kind.

I can warn you about sin, but I cannot make you live your morals.

I can love you as a daughter, but I cannot place you in God’s family.

I can pray for you and your future, but I cannot make you walk with God.

I can tell you how to live, but I cannot give you eternal life.

It’s all up to you and your relationship with God!